I have an old i7 which I am looking to give to a non tech user for which I need a very stable distro that I can set and forget about it. It will mainly be used to browse the web.
From my research the best contenders are either OpenSuse Leap or Debian. I tried Ubuntu LTS but it had some bugs that didn't inspire me much confidence and Fedora runs very slowly for some reason. I also noticed that REHL has a free licence now that allows you to install it and receive the same updates as their corporate version. Has anyone used it for a home pc? Are there any advantages over OpenSuse or Debian?
PS: it supports the x86-64-v2 instruction set

Hello everyone, I (23F) come to tell you a story of drama and tragedy: My father abandoned me since I was born, my mother raised me until I was 9 years old, then she met my stepfather, I liked him because I didn't have a father figure, at 12 my brother was born, whom I adored, my stepfather always tried to be equitable in the treatment he gave us, if he bought something for my brother then he would also buy me something, however, he is a person with low communication skills, he speaks very little and keeps everything within himself, of course I was always closer to my mother, however, passed away when I was 18 years old, my maternal family supported me the first year but I continued to live with my stepfather and brother (whom I always called by his name since I was ashamed to call him dad, although he has been the only father figure in my life). The following two years I tried to support my stepfather as much as possible in raising my brother, since he also suffered a lot from losing my mother, of course I made many mistakes with my brother, it was difficult for me to date friends since my priority was my brother, my social life was very low, everything was worse with the pandemic and the mandatory confinement, this year I had my first paid job, being virtual raised my stress and anxiety levels a lot, in the end I went Diagnosed with depression and I was on medication, I constantly ask my stepfather that he should communicate better to understand what is bothering him, since I am very open about it, but he doesn't, he keeps everything to himself and throws hints, with the medication I became like a zombie, without wanting to get up, my stepfather made comments about how lazy I was for not helping at home, and he did it in front of my brother, that bothered me a lot and I told him, but there were no changes, I decided to cut myself off for full of responsibilities with my brother, I'm just very tired, we live in the same house but we haven't talked for more than 2 months, I'm tired of asking him to talk to solve family problems and he doesn't have the initiative to communicate, I I feel very bad because he supported me when I was bad, but whenever I tried to improve our family environment he gets defensive, I want to clarify that I live with my family because I am studying at the university and finances are not the best, he is also a person extremely frugal, legally I am his daughter but I know that he has no responsibility with me, 1 day ago I had a crying episode because I heard how he spoke badly about me with my aunt saying that I am very lazy and that I never leave my room, I was very upset because he knows better than anyone how hard I work in my new job and how bad I feel emotionally. Any advice?

Tl;dr - best legal way to remove undesired “tenants” from my sisters home?
Rundown:
Sister is currently and lives in a low-income rental with her two kids. She became involved with a guy, who then got evicted from his own residence, and he moved in with my sister, and brought his mother in tow (she was living with him).
When my sister and this guy met, they were both working (how they met), now they’re both unemployed. She lost her job due to some health struggles, not sure about him. She’s a U.S. resident, he is undocumented.
She does not like the guy, but feels trapped. She’s been in and out of the hospital for various reasons, currently sitting with her as she’s coming out of a second surgery in two days. The guy is pretty worthless, sapping her of resources, and using her for shelter, but he IS, at least on paper, an adult in the house. Her kids (my niece and nephew), are 15 and 18, so they CAN take care of themselves for some things, but not everything. The guy doesn’t help her with anything, his mom lives in the basement and DEFINITELY doesn’t help with things, and he frequently brings his nephew* over and stay as well. He doesn’t clean, or get the kids around when they need to be places. He has access to her car, but my folks, who live in the same town, are the default caretakers for them when my sister is down-for the count. My folks are the ones shuttling her kids up to the hospital to see her, getting them to/from work or school, double checking there are groceries in the home.
Nobody likes this guy (sister, her kids, my folks, me), and it’s clear he is a leech. So many of her mental/emotional health struggles got worse once he moved in, and she’s largely been a recluse/shutting out others ever since.
Without wanting to jeopardize anything for heher kids, what can a person do to get an individual(s) removed from a dwelling given the following:

• it’s not my residence
• he’s not listed on a lease, nor is his mother or the nephew* that comes and stays
• my sister is the person on the lease, but is incapacitated at the moment.
• nobody wants my sisteher kids traumatize by the experience more than they have been already
• State of Wisconsin if that helps
• nephew - asterisked because I think he’s actually the son of the sister of this guys ex. Who f**ing knows.
• I live on the West Coast (currently here because my nephew just graduated high school - which his mom/my sis missed because she’s in the hospital)

Feeling a little lost, and unsure what to do. My parents are aging so quickly I’m trying to shoulder all of this, and when my sis gets out of the hospital, she’s going to need a good amount of support care for a couple months until she’s on the mend.
We just want this guy and his mess of a life gone - it would be such a relief in terms of the reduction of mental/emotional stress, my sister could actually focus on healing and taking care of herself/her kiddos.
I guess this was a bit of a rant as much as it was an ask for Reddit guidance.
It’s not likely anything will be done until my sister is coherent (she just got out of her second surgery of the week), but I’d like to know what options might be out there?
Ugh.

Ok folks, here I am, the guy who missed the Kickstarter for no good reason.
To get a nice fresh hardback, is there any way to order besides waiting a while for online sales? What’s the best way to support the project?
Sorry if this has been answered ad nauseam, I really couldn’t find the answers with a quick search. Thanks folks, love ya’ll!

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At the Beginning
Adventure Arc - Arc 2
Wilderness Arc - Arc 3
Academy Arc - Arc 4
Previously on Leveling up the World…
 
PERSONAL AWAKENING
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Orange clouds floated on a purple sky. There had been a time when Dallion would have found such a sight breathtaking, or at the very least remarkable. Now, it was just another day in his realm. Sitting at the top of Onda’s tower, Dallion stared into the distance.
“Hey, old man!” the teen nymph shouted. “You’re messing up the look!”
If there was one person whose arrogance had grown along with Dallion’s it was Onda. The hammer guardian had always seen himself as a genius and, thanks to the Moonstone in the realm, his opinion of himself had grown even further.
“You’ve no idea how much time and skill it took to get it right!”
Funny. Up to today, Dallion hadn’t minded the attitude. In fact, he hadn’t even noticed it.
“I need some assistance,” he said, glancing down.
At the comment, the guardian froze. There was a spark of emotions within him that was quickly subdued.
“She said not to encourage you,” Onda whispered.
“Harp?” Dallion split into a few instances and looked around. “I won’t be doing anything reckless,” he said with a sigh. “It’s forging related.”
“Forging?” The guardian didn’t sound convinced.
“A while back, you said that there are more complicated things than crafting metals. I want to learn magic crafting.”
“Magic crafting?” Onda shivered slightly while saying the magic word.
“Whatever the proper term is. I know you can do it, so—”
“Can’t.” The guardian quickly interrupted. “She said no magic.”
“Seriously?” Dallion grumbled. “Harp!” he shouted in the direction of the harpsisword’s tower.
Other than a few waves, there was no reaction. Harp was determined not to meddle in his development, and that included not helping him with anything magic related, at least for the time being. After what had happened in Lanitol, Dallion would have thought that he’d be given a pass for reasonable requests. Apparently, that wasn’t the case.
In all honesty, his request wasn’t exactly safe or random. The thought of challenging the archduke’s son had made him remember the duel they’d had back in Nerosal, including the origami weapons the noble had used. Creating such a weapon would be very beneficial in more ways than one. For one thing, Dallion was considering upgrading Lux’s home. Having the firebird follow him about like a bladebow with kaleidervisto sights was starting to get bothersome.
“What about enchanting?” Dallion asked. “I’ve already done that many times.”
The nymph shook his head.
“That was temporary.”
Maintaining his calm exterior, Dallion waited for a short while longer, then left his realm. The first thing he felt was a wave of air hitting him in the face. Moments later, his senses returned to normal.
Normally, entering a realm while flying wasn’t the best of ideas, but it didn’t count while on a cloud fort. Initially, Dallion had wanted to avoid the fuss, but when the squad of furies within the cloud had offered to take them, the choice was made for him.
Aware of their emotions, he knew that the offer was extended mostly because of Diroh. While guard furies assisted mages, they rarely went out of their way to catch up to one mid flight. The rumors of her being royalty must have spread.
“You can rest a bit,” the fury told Dallion. He was a seasoned veteran who didn’t have time for all the rank bullshit. “We won’t reach the Academy till tomorrow.”
One additional day. If Dallion had continued flying on his own, he’d have been there by now.
“Any news?” he asked, suppressing a yawn.
“Where do I start? The Azures are gathering armies in the northeast. Mages too. I’m expecting a major clash in a month at most. The new archduke is also positioning her forces. Now that she’s been given the new spot, she can’t afford to mess up.”
It was tempting to crack a smile. It would be nice if Priscord got humiliated in the upcoming battle, but that was unlikely to happen. The emperor had picked her for the position, which meant that he’d back her up with some of his legions. Losing two archdukes in the same area wasn’t something that would look good.
“Lots of crimsons are also there,” the fury continued. “At least we get to enjoy the skies here for a while.”
Dallion nodded. He, too, was going to join them.
“A bunch of rogues formed a new enclave in the west. It’s out of the empire, so no one’s bothering for now. I told some of your lot that it’s a mistake. No one listened.”
“Someone will take care of them.”
The west, at least, was deprived of any presence. Only the Order was slowly spreading in that direction. No wonder the last Star had made his stronghold there.
“There’s been a few skirmishes in the southeast, but nothing major. The Alliance is keeping the Azures in check. Only minor kingdoms are poking about, trying to get themselves noticed by one of the powers.”
“Yes, everyone’s choosing sides.”
That was true and things were only going to get tougher. Settlements, cities, even small countries were quick to ally themselves to one of the three powers. Even before the war began, several of the minor players had made their intentions known. Most had allied to the empire. Now that its position was shaky, they were looking at the other options. It didn’t end with whole settlements either. Guilds and trade organizations had been moving about, going further to the heart of the empire or out of it. Even hunter dens weren’t immune.
Before leaving Lanitol, Dallion had flown by the structure out of a feeling of nostalgia. What he found was an empty lot. He had expected some of the hunters to have gone—there were many dwarves among them. Yet, the building was missing as well. A more optimistic person might have assumed that the hunters had found a way to take their den as they left the city. In reality, it had likely been absorbed by the overseer. Neutrality was a dangerous notion, especially if those proclaiming to be neutral were strong.
“Over a dozen ghost towns have formed on the border,” the fury said. “If they remain too long without a master, the wilderness will take them.”
“That’s how it usually works.”
The fury glanced at Dallion sideways, but didn’t add anything more. It was obvious he wanted to know more about the fury, just as it was obvious that Dallion had no intention of sharing. The moment of calm had given him a while to relax, and now that adrenalin had loosened its grip, less immediate concerns had resurfaced.
Prophecies, he said to himself. So far, he had heard two. The first had come from a nymph sheet acquired years ago. The dwarf hunter who had found it swore that an otherworlder would bring to the end to the world, or at the very least a substantial change. When combined with what Cleric had shared, the worst might have come to pass. It was Dallion who had made it possible for Adzorg to construct his device. If he found the final pieces, he might pop the barrier between worlds like a soap bubble, letting void creatures pour into reality unimpeded.
If there was nothing you could do, the Order wouldn’t have sent you, Gen said from Dallion’s realm. There’s no point in perfect prophecies.
There is if all you need to do is hide, Dallion replied mentally.
If you’re hiding, you’re not doing it very well.
Dallion smiled. His echo had a suitable sense of humor, even if it didn’t help particularly right now.
“What about vortex gleams?” Dallion asked.
“Vortex gleams,” the fury repeated. “There’s talk of a few out east. The crimsons will know more. They don’t tell the rest of us much.”
“Right.” Dallion leaned back in the sea iron mesh that served as a chair. “Wake me up when we get to the Academy. Don’t stop for anything until we get there, not even assists.”
“You’re the mage.”
If the flight was eventful, Dallion never got to learn about it. Over a day, he spent the time sleeping. To a large part, that was to diminish the fatigue that had stacked up in the last six months. More importantly, though, he was hoping to have a Moon dream. With the curse, he hadn’t been getting anything that might help. This time was no different, although it didn’t bring nightmares either. All it brought was a whole lot of blankness: Dallion closed his eyes one moment, then when he opened them again, he was a few hundred feet from the battle mage building. According to the armadil shield, they had been there for hours, but no one had dared wake him up.
How nice of them, Dallion thought and sat up.
The fury on guard was new—far younger than the previous one, tasked with keeping the cloud stable. Everyone else, Diroh included, was gone.
“Where’s everyone?” Dallion cracked his back. Sleeping on war clouds wasn’t as comfortable as people assumed it would be.
“Your novice was escorted into the building, battle apprentice,” the fury replied, using Dallion’s standard title. “All your things were moved to your room as well.”
“And the furies?”
“They were sent out on another cloud. Katka ordered that we leave you to sleep undisturbed, so—”
“I get the picture.”
Dallion cast a spell, rising up from the cloud. Without a word of thanks, he floated straight to Katka’s room on the upper floor of the building, then went inside. The magic symbols on the walls glowed brighter as he passed. Recognizing him as belonging here, they remained in their present state.
The moment he flew in, the room widened, increasing tenfold in size. This wasn’t normal. Katka wasn’t a fan of modifications, preferring to keep things as they were. Ironically, that made many of the Academy mages see her as a snob. In their eyes, illusions weren’t good enough for her, since she resorted to getting the actual physical thing and bringing it here.
The current modification spell had turned the room into a modern Earth corporate office. There was lots of space, full of desks, cheap plants, water coolers and a glass walled meeting room at the far side. Looking closely, Dallion saw four figures gathered there.
Just great, he thought.
The archmage was present along with Katka. The other two were silhouettes made of cloud matter and water, respectively. That meant that the entire Shimmering Circle had gathered to discuss something. Since Dallion had joined, there had been only one similar meeting. Back then, the “woman” Dallion had seen in Gassil’s memory fragment had also been there, even if no one had formally introduced her to him. There were a few more instances in which she had taken shape to discuss something with Katka. As for the last member, he remained completely unknown. Dallion was aware of his existence, but nothing more.
“Dal,” the archmage’s voice echoed throughout the room, as if he were using loudspeakers. “Join us.”
Taking a deep breath, Dallion made his way to the door of the meeting room and went inside. The conference table was large enough to hold eight people. The seat next to Katka was left free, indicating he was supposed to take it.
“This must be important.” Dallion said, using his magic vision in an attempt to see the people behind the constructs. He was able to see the magic threads connecting the forms to invisible portals, but not what lay beyond. “First time I see everyone gathered.”
The sharp look the archmage gave him quickly told Dallion to tone down the humor.
“We heard what happened down south,” the man said. “What are your dealings with the Order?”
“You know I can’t tell you that,” Dallion said calmly. “Moon vows and all that.”
“Convenient.”
“What I can say is that the Azures tried to take out the archduke.” There was a moment’s pause. “And myself.”
“You were targeted?” Katka asked, more surprised than intrigued.
“I guess Grym is still mad at me for last time. They managed to put echoes in a lot of the people at the banquet. Most of them were normies, but there were a few awakened… as well as the local mage.”
“We know,” the archmage said. “Would have been nice to bring one of them alive for questioning.”
“Wasn’t my fault. The archduke absorbed all the evidence. I did manage to get the mage’s robe, though. If there’s anything to be learned, I’ll find it.”
“Such a marvelous ability,” the cloud woman said. “Sometimes you make me envious.”
“That’s not why I called for this,” the archmage hissed. “A messenger arrived from the emperor himself. The vortex gleam that was spotted not too long ago wasn’t the only one. As it turns out, it’s only a drop in the bucket. There have been twenty-seven confirmed sightings, but unlike the last one, the levels are much higher.”
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I'm going to keep it vauge because, knowing my luck, someone from my company will be on here.
I've been in my current managerial position now for two years. It's a non-profit, one of the largest in the country and is the second most profitable store by a large margin. In other words, it's absolutely manic. I was head hunted for the position two years ago and brought on to sort out an absolute shambles of a messily run store. Think zero care for rules and regulations, zero incident reports despite the store being an entire health hazard, regular theft and some of the worst, rudest and shoddy customer sales attitudes I've seen in a decade. (And I've had some seriously crappy jobs!)
Anyway, within a year, (with the core teams help) we all managed to get the store to a much better place. I slowly got rid of incompetent staff, let go of volunteers that were stealing and pushed for more staffing to help take the stress off the main core workers. (Who are awesome btw!)
Now as a non profit, each store is designed to be run by volunteers purely. Which, in theory, works if you have a small store that is easy to manage. Not with our store. It's huge, we do deliveries and collections so a lot of heavy lifting and manual labour is involved. Not unusual to hit 24k steps in a single day on the shop floor.
However, I came in after COVID restrictions, which meant we had lost 80% of our volunteer base ( elderly, immuno compromised, etc) as handling second hand items ran a far higher risk of contracting COVID 19. The store was struggling big time, it was five times the size of a normal store. Staff were unhappy, overworked and the previous manager had already left due to mental health reasons. (This is important to remember later!..)
I worked hard. I mean extraordinary hard, to get that store to a much better place. I held volunteer rally's, open days, coffee mornings, and went round local colleges giving talks about volunteering and the circular economy and encouraging work placement positions with us. I found local government grants to hire people on 20hr contracts in exchange for extra social welfare payments. I pushed for monthly and annual reports, budget plans, allowances and made interior improvements and exterior housing repairs that had needed to be done years ago.
I held staff meetings to find out what they wanted or needed (turns out training wasn't something the company offered AT ALL.) Then pushed for, and GOT additional annual training courses, better canteen facilities, even daily tools and equipment! Everything there was broken, tired or a donation.
It paid off, and I'm happy to say that in addition to having a really amazing core team, better working conditions and more qualified team members, the store is up 58% in PURE PROFIT ALONE. I mean, that in itself is pure insanity.
People are actually taking lunch breaks, using thier holidays and sick days and are generally happier. (I hope! ...at least, they could be lying to my face. There's always that fear. 🤦🏼‍♀️)
The only part thats getting worse...well... is me.
I'll admit, I'm not the best on mental health. I take care of all my staff FAR better than I ever take care of myself. (Not feeling well? Then straight home and bed rest, and take lots of fluids. If I'm sick...well then, I'm a piece of trash that deserves to die. lol)
I have a tendancy to go 100 miles an hour and not stop unless I'm dying. Which in fact, almost happened last year when I stupidly attempted to work through a bout of sickness that landed me in hospital for a week.
I love the job, but have realised that even if I give it 110%, it will never be enough. I've had zero support from my regional manager. All my results for additional support were ignored or refused. I'm the only paid member of staff there, so when we started opening back up on weekends, there was just this assumption that I'd do a 6 day week. (Which I did, stupidly, for 4 weeks straight, which led me to becoming severely burnt out.)
After that, I started going to therapy. Both to deal with my own anxiety and to cope with the stress of work. I've recently took a week's holiday from work to rest and honestly, just couldn't. Staff didn't show up, my manager rang me several times (no, I didn't answer.) And I found I just slept the entire week as I just wanted to rest.
After confiding in both my GP and my therapist, ice decided to take a months leave for Mental Health. The idea of going back into the chaos on Monday has my in tears all weekend and my heart just sinks.
I know it's time to move on but I have this overwhelming sense of guilt for leaving my team in the lurch. I know that if it was anyone else, I would fully understand and support it but because it's me, I feel like I'm somehow not entitled to it?
Like I don't want to inconvenience anyone or be a bother but I hit every number on the burnout assesment by my therapist apart from no.11 "are you participating in any dangerous new activities?" And that's purely because I'm so goddam tired and exhausted all the time!
I sleep from 7.30 till 8am some days and still feel like a dead weights on my chest. I can't switch off my brain and I'm constantly worried about work, if they're struggling, if there's enough staff, are we hitting targets.... It just won't stop.
I've a plan....to use the month to seriously job hunt, take care of myself and really, really take care of my mental state but....I can't help but feel like I'm failing somehow? That I'm letting work down? I know it'll go on without me, as any company would, but I feel like a child about to be told off for taking leave.
I don't know what to do anymore..

He’s never financially supported us. It’s just got worse over the years. So many things that he just stopped paying for or refused to pay for. He made probably 4 times as much money as me but was in debt and bad with money. In 10 years he never once tried to take care of his debt that dragged us down. Out of 2600 a month he would pay maybe 600 to rent. Barely helped me pay for food.
I was in an accident before I met him and it took a decade but I finally got paid out. Of course the housing market went ridiculous and when I should have been able to buy a house outright, now I have a giant mortgage. It was supposed to be affordable but things happened. He was supposed to start giving me more money monthly and he did. Slightly. It never made a dent because our expenses are far more than my measly disability covers. With our incomes combined it should be absolutely no problem. I have no idea where tf his money was going but he just kept claiming he could never pay for things.
When he started work from home he stopped using his car and only used mine. It went on for so long that he was unable to use his car at all. He sometimes put gas in but never paid me for the use of that car for 3 years. When he finally did sell the car I got nothing out of it. Bought a car with my payout money. He just HAD to have an SUV because he’s tall and didn’t want to be cramped. So of course I had to spend more on that. There’s so much more I could get into but we would be here forever.
It’s to the point where I had to get a line of credit to cover what he wasn’t giving me. With what I received plus his income we should have been set. I had JUST paid off all my debts prior to buying the house only to be in debt again.
He was laid off the beginning of the year and it just made everything so much worse. He doesn’t get much from unemployment and when he does get some, he still gets hundreds of dollars to himself each pay (he pays nothing but his own cell phone and weed) and I get negative money. It doesn’t matter how many times I bring it up he just gets defensive and mean and tries to blame me in strange ways. He just gets mean and leaves. Every time. There is no conversation. I nearly left before I bought the house but we had always lived in a basement apartment with his awful family and I thought I should give us a chance to be a real family. I want to go back in time and run away. Far, far away. I would have bought a mobile home or something I could afford on my own which isn’t much. I’m in an awful financial situation and selling the house would bankrupt me completely. I don’t have anywhere else I can live and my disability prevents me from earning enough to rent. Also it’s bad here for people who are disabled trying to rent. No one will accept them. Affordable housing lists are like 20 year waits and are in the absolute worst slums.
Not looking for advice. Just a vent I guess. I wondered how this would come to an end. I can’t afford my cats medication or food. I won’t be able to pay any of my utilities tor the month and probably not my mortgage either. I have a massive supply of pasta and sauce for a bit. My family will help me with food but he has screwed me over so badly financially I don’t even know what to do.
Best part of him is that he literally lived with his mom and brother until I got the house last year. He’ll just go back and live with them and mooch off fam like he always has. There are no consequences for him other than he no longer has access to my stuff he never paid for in the first place.
I’ll probably have to put my pets down too. He stopped paying for them a long time ago. He probably won’t even care that I have to do it. I can’t afford them and one is old and one is sick. My daughter will be absolutely devastated and so will I. But I can’t afford it and I have no idea where we will go once I don’t have a house. I just want to go all the way back in time.

I had to replace 5 panels of fence as my dogs noticed it was rotting and basically broke through it. They were those pre fab panels that you can kick the board through.
I just did the demo for those panels and 3 support beams are rotted away at the bottom and basically ripped off. I was not prepared to do any concrete work as I've never done it.
Is it best to dig up the concrete and all that or just set up new ones like 2 feet to the side?
I thought about making panels 6 feet long instead of 8 and that may work for me
Thoughts

Funny story, I actually worked on all the data for this stuff nearly a year ago. Then I got bored and started playing a shitton of Splatoon 3 and forgot to actually write the written explanation part of this post. There's a lot of interesting stuff here that I want to showcase to the community and it was really cool to finally put everything together into a clear visualized graph of the story.

Methodology

I used this official video as my source. For every day displayed, I paused the video on the very first frame of that day, manually wrote down all of the vote totals for the final top 15 characters, and entered them into a spreadsheet to track the overall trends from.

The raw data and its errors

Funny story, if you look at the raw data, you can see a few points where some intern or something apparently messed up the data entry. This was not created as a foolproof automated system, there was some human working behind the scenes who accidentally made a couple of mistakes in some surprisingly obvious places once you have everything laid out in a format that makes them easy to spot.
Raw cumulative votes
Raw votes per day
I colored the places of error. Do you see the issues?
Teal: Not an error, but Carrot is the only character in the final top 15 to not place top 20 in the initial voting period. There doesn't actually exist any voting data of what her initial rise looked like. In order to accommodate and approximate this missing information, I took her vote total after she first shows up on day 26 and split it 26 ways evenly across the first days. This is not an accurate representation of what her votes looked like at the time, but for an approximation, it's certainly closer than making a sudden jump out of nowhere and should be a decent enough fix for us to view the rest of her data in the second half of voting from.
Red and Yellow: Hey, Zoro and Ace's votes went DOWN in one day! What happened? How is this possible?
Well, if we look at the yellow squares next to them...they're identical to the same cumulative vote total of that day for Luffy and Carrot respectively. Someone was entering the data and accidentally put Luffy's and Carrot's numbers in Zoro's and Ace's squares respectively, which caused them to go downward for that day. It's a pretty obvious mistake where someone clearly just put the wrong number in the wrong spot when setting this up.
In order to fix this I just removed the data for those days from Zoro and Ace and replaced it with a difference split between the day before and the day after. It should be a close enough approximation to fix an obvious entry mistake.
Green and Blue: Luffy and Zoro have some strangely identical daily vote numbers taking place here. I believe that this is a result of two issues, missing data for specific days causing the program to simply flatten out the slope and fill in the gaps with the same number of votes per day, and some additional incorrect entries causing an absurd voting spike for them at the start of the green section followed by extremely low votes in the days after to compensate.
Regarding the green section, it looks like there was another error in data entry, so I averaged out the votes across those entire chunks in order to flatten it out and remove a spike and dip that look pretty clearly incorrect. However, the blue section seems to be just the result of missing data that can't be recovered, so I simply left it as is as it appears to already be the best possible approximation of how things have gone.
So, with the errors found and easy to more or less fix, what does that final data look like?

Fixed data

Adjusted cumulative votes
Adjusted votes per day
Coincidentally, due to the exact nature of the errors that took place in the raw data (suspiciously swapped values, weirdly identical/linear periods of growth to accommodate supposedly missing data points), I'm extremely confident that my methodology of tracking one data point per day, taken from the very first frame of each day in the video, is also exactly how the voting data is internally stored in their systems. They aren't tracking the votes perfectly smoothly as they come in, but rather, sampling the current totals at these exact daily moments and extrapolating the trends between them. Honestly pretty cool to have figured out with some pretty strong evidence exactly how their system works for this!
These charts are interesting but a little boring. Let's put it in some charts!

Cumulative votes

Votes per day

Check it out, we have these fun charts now! Let's take a look at some of the stories that we can see taking place.

The first 5 days

We can see HUGE vote totals taking place across the initial days of the poll, with an especially notable spike up in day 4 being the most heavily voted day across the poll. With the voting being fresh and new in everyone's mind, it's understandable that after about five days results would almost universally fall off and

Luffy vs. Zoro

Luffy and Zoro are the iconic rivalry that has defined nearly every single popularity poll. Will the main character retain his throne, or will his ever-popular sidekick with an army of diehard fans finally be able to overtake him?
We can see that the Zoro fans were eager to prove themselves and came out in droves in the first week, barely Luffy daily and building a lead to hold onto. But after that point, the passionate force of his charge fizzled out to more normalized levels and Luffy was able to cleanly overtake him before the halfway point and solidify himself at the top.
If there's any story to be told from these two, it's that even if Luffy is cementing his throne as the definitive most popular among the general audience, Zoro's early lead really signifies just how die-hard his fanbase is about him, forcing an early lead during the most active and passionate part of voting. Unfortunately, it was another year where he was still unable to overtake his captain.

Sanji

The third member of the monster trio has always placed right up with the other two in the polls, landing below Zoro every single time except for the fourth poll where Shanks's striking early presence and Sanji's more minimal breadth of content had kicked him down to fourth. In the fifth poll, he and Zoro were knocked down a spot together by Law but both had comfortably reclaimed their top 3 positions by the time Dressrosa had passed by in the next one
Sanji's storyline in the polls here is particularly boring. He started off at #3, managed to push his distance from Law and solidify his placement, and kept up overall consistent vote totals throughout the entire process. While his daily vote totals were caught up with by a handful other characters in the later half, his overall lead in the first half sitting comfortably between Zoro and Law allowed him to keep a steady rise and perform about what you would expect from him.

Law

Law has always been a top contender for the polls, making an insane upset win against the monster trio in the fifth poll before dropping down to a respectable place right below him in the sixth. Here we can see that the early votes give a similar trend, with his votes spiking him into an early fourth place, before they settled into a more unremarkable position and getting overtaken by a handful of other characters. Despite this, it wasn't enough for them to overtake him and he more or less maintained his approximate spot.

Ace

Ace is in an interesting position as one of the least prevalent characters in terms of screentime to become an overwhelmingly high ranking top contender. His early votes showed an absolutely insane spike, nearing a ballpark closer to the top 4 than the lower contenders, before dropping off significantly to relatively unremarkable daily levels. While he has placed sixth below Sabo in the fifth poll and secured a top 5 spot in the sixth poll, his falloff across the voting period meant that he wasn't able to maintain his initial top 5 placement and was overtaken by several women in order to settle at 9th this time.
Ace's early placement seemed to indicate similar trends to his previous top 5 level history of popularity, but it's likely that the push to an international poll caused other character campaigns in other country to overtake him. In Japan only, he placed 5th again keeping the trends of his previous placements intact.

Robin

Robin opened up with a respectable 6th place start and stayed mostly at the top of the lower end of the pack, before a significant later push before the halfway point really kicked her higher above that group. After overtaking Ace, she managed to hold a respectable number of votes that placed her right alongside Law and formed a new gap between her and the 7th spot.
As Robin placed only 8th in Japan below Ace and Sabo after landing outside of the top 10 in the two polls before this, the demographics of the international push for her past the initial phases was likely what allowed her to make such a significant rise to end up with an impressively similar total to a top character like Law.

Hancock

Similar to Robin, Hancock was a recipient of a notable late push, with her votes being even a little steeper than Robin's though she did not have nearly as much support in the earlier parts of the second half of voting. After an unremarkable start at only 12th, the strength of her late voting force was enough to propel her to 7th, barely overtaking Sabo, Ace, and Carrot but still ending up a distant gap from Robin.

Carrot

While Carrot had the most unimpressive start of the top 15, failing to even be in the top 20 at the start, she managed an impressive steady increase in voting power into the second half, rivalling Robin's performance and working her way all the way up from the bottom of the pack to to Ace levels in the third quarter. After overtaking Hancock, she was eventually surpassed by her again at the very end, ending up in a virtual tie with her but barely losing out in 8th place to her much steeper late push at the end.

Sabo

Sabo is the steadiest character that we're looking at so far. Lacking the immediate meteoric initial spike of Ace but not really getting the same late poll vote increases like Robin, Hancock, and Carrot, he managed to hold onto a respectable spot throughout the poll and ended things right below his brother in a gradual catchup.
In Japan, similarly to previous polls, he landed at 6th right next to Ace again, a much higher placement that alongside previous results indicates that Luffy's brothers are significantly more popular in their home country than they are internationally. Both dropped down 4 spots together with the global shift, maintaining respectable top 10 placings but clearly showing that they're the big Japanese fan favorites relative to the rest of the world.

Yamato

Yamato was in an interesting spot where her position as a manga-only character at the time of voting was pitted directly against her recent fan-favorite presence resulting in some very notable pushes for her votes that were relatively visible in the fanbase. Starting the poll off at only 18th, she managed to climb her way all the way up to a peak position of 10th place before Carrot's campaign managed to dethrone her.
The rivalry between the two characters is an interesting subject with a lot of community context to dive into regarding their voting results, but in 2023 I think that the majority of the fanbase has moved on from these two and isn't as interested in the subject of pushing their storyline now that the potential behind them is no longer as open-ended.

Nami

Nami started off the poll at a respectable placement of 7th, one spot above her previous two poll placements of 8th, landing a decent gap below Robin and fighting in a densely packed area for her spot. She held onto her place at 7th all the way up until the midterm results, staying at a consistent level unable to take Robin but still holding onto her spot above others like Shanks and Sabo.
This all suddenly changed about 70% of the way through the voting process, at which point Nami suddenly jumped up to over four times Luffy's daily vote totals. She went from receiving an average of 5k votes per day to about 90k votes per day. This is over double Luffy and Zoro combined, when previously she was only a small fraction of daily votes compared to them.
Where did these votes come from? Did people start suddenly shifting their choices from other characters in order to push for her? In order to check this idea, we can look at another graph: Total votes per day of the top 15 characters compared to all others. These represent nearly 9 million of the reported 12 million total votes that took place in the poll, about 3/4ths of the full voting pool being dumped into this group.
In the relative lull periods independent of things like the early voting spike, we can see that the poll got a relatively expected approximate total of 10k votes per day across these characters. During the periods where Nami was experiencing her vote spike, this doubled to about 20k. All of the extra daily votes that took place during that period were seemingly being funneled straight and directly to her. They weren't coming from other characters in the top 15, such as voters deciding to shift their focus from other characters to her. They couldn't even be coming from other characters outside of the top 15, since the total outside of it is only about a third of the top 15 total yet the top 15 votes per day doubled with Nami's increases.
Nami in the final third of voting seemed to have gotten a peak of about 90k extra votes per day coming as extra votes into the system's totals for a long enough chunk to garner over 750k total outlier votes that don't seem to align with her previous trends. All of these votes seem to perfectly align with just being...extra votes from new users who weren't actually voting before, increasing the total votes per day by nearly the exact same amount, rather than being voters from other people switching to support Nami as a result of a social media campaign or something.
So where did this absolute insane spike in Nami votes come from? It's hard to say. The numbers surrounding her don't make a whole lot of sense when investigated and the sheer overwhelming shift with her going from a consistent 7th with 5k per day to suddenly making up nearly half of the total daily votes, far above Luffy with nearly twenty times her previous amount. Supposedly, while the trends of the entire rest of the poll stayed relatively constant with consistent vote ratios and totals across the board for literally everyone else, a horde of Nami voters came out in massive droves at one specific point in the poll with numbers enough to dwarf even the most popular character by entire orders of magnitude, before they slowed down right by the end and left her up in a whopping 3rd place for the first time ever, far above her previous polling history. It was her first time landing in the top 5 since Alabasta, breaking a long streak of 6ths to 8ths with this extremely impressive showcase of an unprecedented record placement for her.

Usopp

Usopp is the character who I voted for every single day and like every year you as a community have all collectively failed him again. One day we will reach a point where the One Piece fanbase manages to grow a sense of actual taste but for now we will continue to appreciate our favorite sniper boy for who he is and be proud of everything that he's accomplished.

Conclusion

So there you have it, a full showcase of the top 15 character voting and some of the stories that we can derive from the data! Feel free to take a more in-depth look at this yourselves and see if there's any other interesting conclusions you can draw about the pushes and campaigns that seem to take place, I'd love to hear more thoughts on the matter. Going through all of the stats is a ton of fun and it's super cool to finally get to see all of the numbers laid out like this in a manner that's so easy and clean to draw some interesting conclusions from.

She says i ruined her life sometimes and i kinda did, because my bio father left us when i was born because he didn't want me, she lived in a small town she didn't really like? most of her life and had not great relationships with her father, moved in the capital and lived in a shitty marriage for 11 years and now they want to divorce. She isn't the best mother and says gross shit to me sometimes, but after everything what happened to her i just, idk, pity her. Ofc she doesn't want a transsexual child on top of everything else. I am an adult now and can move out, but if i do she'll have nowhere to go because our family may not accept her back. She can't afford renting alone because she's VERY low income and refused a better job opportunity because of me (if she accepted her coworkers would've know i'm transsexual and she didn't want that, don't ask for details, it just would've happened). Idk what to do now, i don't really want to live with her because she's not supportive and still can't use my name (2+ years testosterone male papers half of the surgeries and everything) but i feel like i owe her. I know she's partially at fault herself for some of that shit, but i'm not a lucky guy myself so i know how having terrible misfortune happen to you sucks and idk if she deserves to be mistreated by me after everything, I'm not a good child either

I'm using TrueNAS Scale and I got this error a while back:

Pool storage state is ONLINE: One or more devices has experienced an error resulting in data corruption. Applications may be affected.

I'm not sure what exactly is the issue, I'm quite new to ZFS, it is my first go at it.
When I run $zpool status -v:
```shell pool: boot-pool state: ONLINE status: Some supported and requested features are not enabled on the pool. The pool can still be used, but some features are unavailable. action: Enable all features using 'zpool upgrade'. Once this is done, the pool may no longer be accessible by software that does not support the features. See zpool-features(7) for details. scan: scrub repaired 0B in 00:00:04 with 0 errors on Fri Jun 9 03:45:05 2023 config:

 NAME STATE READ WRITE CKSUM boot-pool ONLINE 0 0 0 mirror-0 ONLINE 0 0 0 nvme0n1p3 ONLINE 0 0 0 nvme1n1p3 ONLINE 0 0 0 

errors: No known data errors
pool: storage state: ONLINE status: One or more devices has experienced an error resulting in data corruption. Applications may be affected. action: Restore the file in question if possible. Otherwise restore the entire pool from backup. see: https://openzfs.github.io/openzfs-docs/msg/ZFS-8000-8A scan: scrub repaired 0B in 03:57:03 with 1 errors on Tue May 30 08:44:47 2023 config:

 NAME STATE READ WRITE CKSUM storage ONLINE 0 0 0 raidz3-0 ONLINE 0 0 0 99fdc330-d7fe-4098-b6f2-a81aabf1bf85 ONLINE 0 0 0 35eefa9a-69ec-4a99-92ea-6a06aae3c27d ONLINE 0 0 0 1e3ed8eb-02e0-4e94-8bcd-baa4d8d86ad5 ONLINE 0 0 0 992f35c5-2921-4a6d-86f4-4ace2e00f445 ONLINE 0 0 0 0971dee2-b220-48a3-b8bb-4abc8ef7e710 ONLINE 0 0 0 3809862b-bae8-4abd-8912-9c4c40202c95 ONLINE 0 0 0 

errors: Permanent errors have been detected in the following files:

 <0xd167>:<0x3f0e02> 

```
What would be the right action here? Not sure what file I should restore. How can I check more information about the file?
Is this something I should be concerned about? I'm guessing it would be best to create a backup somewhere. I don't need all my data but there are few important stuff I wouldn't like to lose.

Holy Shit-snacks!
The world's greatest spy, while selfish, still does his best to make the world a better place, so as such, we have decided that the sub will be participating in the blackout from June 12th to the 14th. This means that you will not be able to read or make posts during that time.
For more detailed information, check out THIS IMAGE, /Save3rdPartyApps/, and /ModCoord.

What's going on?

A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users.
On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader.

Neat, but I don't use 3rd party apps. So why should I care?

This is not just about you. This is about all of reddit.

Still, why should I care?

1. I know this is self-serving, but mods rely on 3rd party apps and bots to run their subreddits and to keep them free from spam and trolls. Remember, mods are unpaid volunteers. We do not get paid for this, nor are we asking to. We do this because we care about the topic and the community. We have asked reddit for years to make modding easier on the site and through the official app, and while they have added some tools, it still isn't enough, so we have to fill the gaps with 3rd party apps and bots. Simply put, if you hate bots, spammers, and scammers, this should be important to you.
   
2. There is an old "rule" of the internet called the 1% rule. Essentially it means 1% of users create and contribute. 9% of users just contribute (think reposts, just finding stuff from other places, or commenting in general), and 90% lurk. When it is harder for those creators and contributors to actually contribute, they will just leave. All you lurkers out there will not have anything to view if that happens. So if you enjoy original content, or just the content on this sub in general, this should be important to you too!
   
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How can I help?

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In closing, we know that a blackout is going to anger and inconvenience people, and that is the point. We need you to get angry and to make your voices heard to the Admins. We are asking for you, the users, to help us make this a better place.

TDLR: Reshuffle Reddit’s leadership, double down on building with community, give users and mods the tools we need to rebuild the best social network
Key is to provide the infrastructure to allow the ecosystem to thrive: Trust, Communication, Actions
Here are the list of demands I personally would want to have deliver, else there is really no point to hang around:

1. To instill trust, Steve should resign from leadership role at Reddit
2. To revitalise new positive energy, new individual who is pro-community should take over as CEO, or in acting capacity while the search of a new (and capable) leader is ongoing
3. To allow third-party to survive and flourish: API policy to be reviewed and co-crafted with community, to be announced at a later date. Meantime, no change to the existing free-use API policy.
4. Invite TPA developers back to develop for Reddit and work towards API parity
5. Kickstart a form of transparency audit report to maintain trust within users and devs

To be clear, the community do recognise the value of Reddit. Many of us, don’t mind paying for our fair share to maintain the ecosystem and support the ecosystem. Personally, I don’t mind paying $9.99/month. Thoughts?
Obligatory disclaimer: This is not a threat. I have nothing to lose now that I’ve lost everything (referring to Apollo). As bad as it might sound, I really see no way around the current shit show. Really suggesting because this is what I feel could inch us towards an ideal outcome.
Thoughts?

I(35female) have three kids with my husband Mani(35male). Two of the kids are 15 year old twins (a boy Gabe and a girl Vivian) and a three year old child. My brother Ivan(26male) is married to Teagan(24male). Gabe is also gay and he confined in Ivan and Teagan a lot. They’re practically his best friends which I really don’t mind. Me and Mani may get upset from time to time because it’s quite clear they favor Gabe over Vivian.
Three months ago we made a deal with Gabe and Vivian that if they get really good grades and behave in school then we would buy them whatever they want. Gabe wanted a Ps5 and brand new shoes while Vivian wanted the newest iPhone, new shoes, and brand new clothes.
Three months later and Vivian got good grades and behaved in school while Gabe did the complete opposite. We gave them many sources to accomplish good grades. Viv used most of them while Gabe didn’t use not one.
So we bought Viv what she wanted but Gabe got nothing. He complained to Ivan and Teagan and without consulting us they decided to buy Gabe everything he wanted. They showed up with the things before Gabe got home from school and we told them to return it all.
Mani said to stop intruding in our parenting because this is something they constantly do. They said we were being unfair and favoring Viv over Gabe which is something we’ve never done. Gabe could’ve gotten what he wanted had he got good grades which isn’t hard.
They left but decided to show up after but when Gabe was home from school. We took the things from them and told them that they weren’t allowed around Gabe and Viv anymore since they think they have the right to intrude on our parenting.
Mani said that they were lightly the reason for Gabe thinking his grades didn’t matter. Viv cares but not that as much as Gabe. We feel like we’re TA because they’re Gabe’s emotional support system but then again we don’t not because of this situation but because of their favoritism towards both of our kids. So AITA?

TL;DR version: Company is in a bind and needs an assistant managemanager ASAP. I can do the job with no training needed starting next week and going until the fall when I start school again. How do I leveraged the situation in my email offer to take the job to get the best deal?
The long story:
I've been with this company for 15 years, including as an assistant manager for 1.5 years. I recently took a part-time role at a new store so that I could take a part-time teaching position. I've been at the new store since September and it has been a RIDE. The manager who hired me here got transferred to another city the week I started, and we've had a revolving door of new managers in the months since, of varying quality/competence (I think we're up to three now?). I've kept my head down during this, and focused on my section of the store except for critical circumstances. I've consciously avoided doing management tasks, though I have agreed as a resource for the new managers on institutional knowledge. Now the store's ASM (who's been passed over for promotion at every step) had been named Acting Manager, and the company is apparently haven't trouble hiring someone to fill the management vacancy. I can step into an Acting ASM role basically immediately, as school is finished in two weeks. I've yet to talk to anyone but the acting manager about taking the role, and she's supportive of me going for the best pay I can. How do I frame all this in an email to our district manager for the best chance of success?

So basically what the title says. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. We have a good relationship apart from some family issues related to my Mil and SIL, but apart from that everything is great. Recently, we have had small arguments over me not wanting to hang out with his friends (30M, 25F) who recently also became a couple. We used to go out once or twice a week with them. I wont say I hate being around them, however I am always stressed and uncomfortable. We make plans and they change them last minute ( I have high anxiety levels and this stresses me out), they are always late, they have inside jokes that I dont get (they all work together) and the conversation mainly revolves around work. I really tried to become part of the group and at some point I thought they considered me their friend.
Recently, however, I found out that during one of my fights with my partner, his girl friend was constantly saying bad things about me, like how I am always in a bad mood ( I am not, I just dont normally talk much, especially since they always talk about things like work and people from work), how I always need him for support and that is not ok ( I have lost a brother and a grandfather in the last two years, so yeah...I need support) and in general she was being really negative about me and was even telling him that he doesnt look happy and should break up. my fiance tells me everything so he told me this as well and I was super upset. He talked with his male friend (her boyfriend) and they agreed we shouldn't make a big deal out of it as she wont take it well.
I am super hurt, but agreed, however I told him that I want to limit my interactions with them. Since then I have seen them a few times, and after every time they make a big deal out of whatever I do. They always tell my boyfriend that I didnt look like I wanted to be there and say things like I dont look like I am having fun. I am literally the same person. The last time this happened I was with them joking the whole time, we were laughing and playing games so I am not sure what the deal is.
So I feel uncomfortable being around them now. I feel like I cant be myself. If I want to be quiet I feel like they will take it as me not liking the company and in general I see that they also dont feel comfortable around me. I suggested I only go out with them once or twice a month. In that way everyone can be happy. My partner is upset as he wants us all to spend time together, however I feel like he is unreasonable. We are all adults and we shouldn't be forced to hang out together.
What is the best way to explain to him that what I am suggesting is completely normal and he shouldn't see it as a bad thing.
Just to clarify, I am not saying his friends are bad people, they are who they are, we are just different personalities and have nothing in common amd after what happen, I feel like we are all uncomfortable around each other.

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