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Context: I stopped drinking 3 years ago. Girlfriend stopped 10 years ago with help of AA.
I need to break up with her. (Non negotiable) And it's right around a change in her life (unrelated) and I worry that if I don't treat her with the upmost grace and empathy that she'll relapse. (She's very impulsive)
I'm the first person she's dated seriously and I'm really worried about her.
With that in mind... How do I do this? Please help. 🙏

So long story short, met my SO as a teenager and have spent half my life with him. House, kids, stable economy etc. everything is great in that aspect. But there hasn’t been any passion or feelings past 10 years. Have been thinking of trying someone else on the side for many years but always the guilt holding me back. Last year it just happened when I met a man online in my position exactly and we talked about 7 months before we met even tho we live less than 1 hour drive away from each other.
So first meeting he just picked me up in his car one night when I was alone and we drove around just talking for hours, felt so natural even tho I thought it was gonna be super awkward. We talked a bit about how things would be settled if we decided to cheat and both agreed on “no feelings or a second partner as a double life, just sex”. He dropped me off at my place again and gave me the best hug I’ve probably ever felt (plus he smelled so good I was 1 sec away from inviting him in).
Since then it’s been 8 months and we’ve hooked up several times. Sometimes hotel, sometimes just in the back of the car. He even agreed last month to come to my house when my SO was away for work in another city even tho he early said that we won’t come home to each other. I got really sick a few months ago and had to go to the hospital with ambulance and ended up really on the edge of not making it. When I had the strength to get on my phone again he was genuine worried and was a really good support during recovery. After that we started to talk a bit more about deeper things and around that point I noticed how I started to develop feelings.. I’ve been too afraid to say anything about it since we agreed on not catching feelings. I’m afraid he’ll “break up” if I say anything, because rn I just wanna meet him and be around him as much as possible even if it means I’m hurting in between for having feelings for him. But I’m also afraid it will go too far that it makes me breaking completely..
I’d never let my feelings ruin his relationship and get in between his family tho. And I’d never ask him to leave his SO because I’m not sure I could leave my family despite this messy situation.
Anyone else in similar situations? How do you handle it? I can’t stop thinking about him and fantasizing about us doing normal couple things instead of sneaking around, and it’s killing me slowly 😅

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My partner and I have been together for 3 years, much of it during Covid. We were pretty isolated for most of the first two years. When we started to live more socially, I started noticing that how my partner treats me in front of others really bothers me.
I’ve noticed that if there is a really attractive person around, my partner will want to engage with that person as if I am not even there. Even if they are holding my hand or maintaining touch, as I have asked them to do if someone approaches us and acts directly interested in ONLY them, the eye contact and smiling between the two of them is intense and invariably the person ends up standing very close to my partner. Although having their arm around my shoulder, the rapport almost always leads to the person brazenly requesting my partners contact info or asking them out right in front of me. I genuinely think these men either assume they are available based on the body and facial language, or they get off on cucking a short guy. Because by this point I usually stalk off, I’ve never seen my partner accept the number or actually act on it.
It’s especially hurtful to me because as a trans man, I’m very petite and many people think I’m a gay guy and either I’m just my partner’s friend, or I’m someone they can “do better than” (since society demeans short men). My partner is non binary but presents as a femme cis woman and is 5’10, meaning many people judge us being together.
This came to a head last week. I pay all of our bills and expenses and spoil my partner constantly. I took them to a charity event that had celebrities in attendance. We met the drummer of a famous band and it was like normal, where the guy ignored me and got close up with my partner asking intense personal questions and my partner replying all starry eyed. They held my arm, but it could easily have been a gay bestie situation. The guy kept asking for my partner’s card or contact info.
Afterward, I felt really hurt. I didn’t bring my partner to this nice event so they could be a groupie. I asked them if they would want to meet up with the drummer and they said they would do it but would stop the second it became inappropriate. They then swore up and down that they would never date this guy with a ten foot pole. For me this was the worst part, since I definitely don’t believe that. My partner is very hierarchical and status oriented and I do not doubt for a second they would LOVE to be dating the drummer for this band; not to mention he is also a drummer for one of the most famous solo artists in my partner’s fav genre (and you absolutely know who they are and many of their songs).
There is also a history of my partner developing crushes on other people and me finding out. It’s made me feel so second choice, because my partner would reach out to these people in at least a friendly way and was rejected. So I don’t even feel like I was the one picked when they stayed with me.
Also, if this is how my partner talks to interested people, with seemingly no clue that others are interested, when I am THERE, I am pretty uncertain what it would look like if I wasn’t.
I am feeling pretty run down. I love my partner but I keep feeling unsafe and not chosen. I am not sure if it’s my insecurities because I used to be an equally beautiful woman as my partner and now they get all the attention I used to. I am not sure how to navigate asking my partner to not flirt because I also want them to meet people and have friends. How do I navigate this? What can i say that is not controlling? I appreciate any advice people can share.

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Memory transcription subject: Martin Russo, Human Refugee
Date [standardized human time]: January 10th, 2137
​
Without the girls, life settles into a boring rut. I talk to them as much as I can on the pad, but they’re busy on Earth, hitting the ground running.
There’s been a lot of ground to cover before they’re caught up to where everyone else will be, particularly for Vilek. She’s often had to pull double-claws of studying, working her fluffy ass off to gain a baseline understanding of psychology in record time. Thiva’s classes on VP by contrast have prepared her well for humanity’s relatively simple technology.
That, and they’ve had to get used to Earth. Earth food, Earth culture, and a planet full of omnivores with forward-facing eyes. I’ve been doing what little I can to help coach and encourage them.
For my own part I’ve been restless. Given that I’m not able to look for a job yet, that physical therapy kicks my ass every other paw, and that I’ve got nothing to do other than look forward to a half-hour of chatting with my friends… I’ve started up on software again. It’s something I can do even while laying prone. Particularly since I have a way to write without using my hands.
What do I do with that, anyway? I can read minds. I can even use the raw data from a full brain scan to extract memories. There’s got to be something useful to do with this. It’s practically the only part of this entire debacle I haven’t bothered telling the UN about.
Honestly after what I’ve been through, I can’t imagine trusting them, or the Venlil government, with this. Bastards would be prosecuting thought-crime by the end of the week.
​
Jarkim’s opened his business a couple of weeks back. Without an actual office, since he plans to simply operate out of Slavik’s farm. As I understand they tolerate it as long as he also helps out in return for food and board. I hope the arrangement works out for the both of them.
I gave Jarkim some help with his online presence. He wasn’t initially sure about the black and white picture of him in a fedora and a tie, or about the business name “Jarkim Krakotl, Private Eye”. But as soon as humans heard about Venlil Prime’s only Krakotl detective they’ve ended up coming to him with their problems.
He sent me a picture of his first solved case, some runaway kid who got lost and reunited with her mother. He was still wearing the hat. No tie, though.
​
Today is my paw off from Chasa’s torments, and it coincides with the launch of another exciting new business venture. So I take the time to visit Mosun.
“Hey Martin! Hold on a minute!” I see the Yotul wrangling a bunch of foam mats around the large, empty room. And its wall-length mirror. Fittingly the place look like the midway point between a dance studio and a martial arts dojo, except for the soft and spongy floor. It’s meant to safeguard against falls.
I glance around the room while he huffs and plops the last few ones down. There’s perhaps thirty-five or forty foam mats scattered on the floor. “So are you being optimistic, or did you get a good reception?”
He looks at me, bouncing with excitement. Though his ears signal a bit of nervousness. “Five Yotul have signed up so far! That’s almost half the Yotul in the entire town! And almost twenty humans! Hanya’s bringing a couple of Gojid friends too, and we’ve got a few Venlil coming along with their humans… Oh, and an Iftali, that was a surprise. Honestly I may be a little in over my head here; I’ve never taught crowds before! I’m not even sure how much will translate across species!”
“So you’ll be learning on the job. I have complete faith in you. Are the Exterminators going to give you any trouble?”
He barks a laugh. “Hah! No, Jarkim had a talk with the magister. I got permission from Vaska’s office to teach the classes in the name of cultural preservation, so those motherfuckers can’t touch me!”
I laugh as well. “You might need to censor your language a bit as a teacher.”
“Combat Dancing is about honesty and expression, Martin. If I can’t live it, how am I supposed to teach it?”
Well, he got me there. “Anything I can do to help?”
He glances at me, his voice gets a little uncomfortable. “Um, I don’t know. Can you carry heavy stuff right now?”
I shrug. “Probably not, no.”
“Then I’ll be fine. You’re not interested in taking the class?”
​
“I think my dancing days are over, for the foreseeable future.” I wryly lift my cane and wave it as a small reminder. It’s wood, and I’m quite fond of it. Chasa found a Venlil craftsman who wanted to be the first to make one for a human, and he made it out of the wood of some kind of tree called Lampan. The color reminds me of mahogany.
His ears droop a bit. “Ah yeah. How permanent is that looking?”
I shrug. “Finger dexterity on the right hand’s likely never going to be the same, but I’ll be able to play video games. Left arm should recover enough for daily use. Leg should get a full range of motion, but I won’t be going jogging. Thankfully I look dignified with a cane.”
He wags his tail teasingly and cocks his head as he regards me. “Do you? …Must be a human thing.”
“Piss off. Mind if I sit in on the class?”
“Of course not!”
Turns out first class of Yotul Combat Dancing is a quick demonstration, and then Mosun talking to the quite large and varied crowd. He talks about the history and cultural significance of Combat Dances to the Yotul, the philosophical underpinnings of the artform, and the mentality to be cultivated in practitioners.
Everyone is listening with rapt attention, and a few of the humans are even taking notes. When he opens the floor for questions, a Venlil asks “Isn’t this an expression of Predator Disease?”
To which Mosun answers “No. Next question?”
Which is honestly as much of a response as that warrants.
I talk with Hanya briefly after the class. She says that she’s been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and that human therapy is helping her out. She even talks excitedly about piloting shuttles again, someday soon. I’m glad for her.
​
Once I get back to the house, there’s a man in a suit waiting for me. He’s tall, bald, and has very dark skin. I don’t recognize him. He extends his hand toward me, and I shake it. He speaks English with an African accent, instead of letting the translator handle it. I’d guess western Africa, but I’m hardly an expert. “Bamidele Adeyemi.”
“Martin Russo. Can I help you?”
He indicates the door. “May I come in?”
“Sure. My Venlil hosts aren’t home right now.”
“Of course.”
Once he’s been let in, and I’ve given him something to drink, I wait patiently for him to explain his presence.
“I am the UN liason to the district magister’s office.”
I keep my tone neutral and politely curious. “What happened to Robert McGinley?”
He keeps his tone neutral too, but friendly. He smiles at me. “It was decided that he should be replaced.”
Oh no. Anyway. “Alright. But… No offense mister Adeyemi, but why are you here?”
​
He takes out a pad. “I have some documents that the UN and the District Magister would like you to sign.”
I sigh inwardly and make a quite heroic effort to not sigh outwardly. I look at the pad briefly anyway. As I expected, it’s about making myself legally liable should I speak up about what I’ve gone through. “I’m afraid you are wasting your time. McGinley told me to sign papers like this too, and I told him ‘no’.”
He nods, entirely unsurprised. “I understand you signed similar documents over a smaller… altercation with the Exterminators. Why the difference of response, if I may ask?”
“Because the first time he threatened to have me thrown out of the refugee center if I didn’t.”
Bamidele’s eyes widen briefly. “I see. That does explain why you told him to ‘fuck off’.”
“Yes.” I pause briefly. “…You’ve been polite enough that I don’t want to use the same language. But.”
He laughs briefly. “Haha, yes, I understand. Different circumstances, yes? My predecessor tried the stick. I am here to try the carrot. So tell me, mister Russo, what will it take for you to sign?”
“There’s nothing that…” I pause.
I sit down. I’m briefly quiet. I miss my friends so goddamn much. I swallow, mouth feeling dry as I tentatively reach for the proffered lifeline. “I… hear Sweden’s lovely this time of year.”
He flashes his teeth at me in a broad smile and chuckles pleasantly. “Hehe, I thought you might say that. But… You do realize it is January?”
​
​
Date [standardized human time]: January 12th, 2137
​
The thought of leaving this wretched planet and its wretched food and its wretched government and its wretched ever-present sun makes me feel like I’m already back in Earth’s lighter gravity.
I ended up paying Chasa back for all the pain and suffering she inflicted on me: The largest gift basket I could find online, filled with fruits, candies, and preserves of both Zurulian and human origin.
When I wake up at the start of the paw, my arch-nemesis has sent me two pictures. The first one is a schedule to keep for the next couple of months. In the second picture she’s put pillows and blankets in the basket and is using it as a bed, a paw raised in goodbye.
If the medi-teddies ever learn to weaponize their cuteness, humanity is in real trouble.
Packing is easy. I don’t have a lot. A band shirt from when I went to see ‘Where Angels Fear’, a few bad sketches of fruit, my dad's chess set, my pad, and a neural scanner.
​
Date [standardized human time]: January 13th, 2137
​
The space flight actually lands directly in Sweden, somewhere north of the polar circle at a place called Esrange. I immediately realize that winter’s back on the menu, as the cold makes my left leg and arm ache like hell. It’s the dead of night, too… But I’ve missed night. So has everyone else, as despite the cold people are walking straight out into the snow to just stare up into the starry sky and stare in open awe at the sky, where the stars form a backdrop for the northern lights. I join them.
A poetic whimsy falls over me, making me grin at the cheesiness. It’s like the sky itself is welcoming us back home.
From Esrange we take cars to Kiruna, Sweden’s northernmost city. From there it’s a long train ride south. I’ve gotten a sleeper cabin. With the generous stipend from the UN, I have no need to scrimp.
Even so, it takes significantly longer to travel 1400 kilometers across Sweden than it did to travel 16 light-years from Gliese 832. I’ve got almost twenty hours to appreciate the irony.
​
Date [standardized human time]: January 14th, 2137
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I’m met at the train station in Lund by a man holding a sign with my name on it. His car takes me directly to the university. Everything feels very… ordinary, except I’m a bit dazed at having so many humans around me again.
We arrive a little before 8 in the morning. Excited students scurry to and fro, eager and hopeful for the first day of spring term. The driver is named Markus, and very kindly helps me find my way to my meeting. I’m left outside a door, standing around awkwardly.
The man I’m meeting with is Jonas Falck, and he’s the head of the department of computer science. While the UN has ‘encouraged’ the university to take me in despite it being so close to the term start, the decision remains with him.
I really wanted to see the girls first, but the meeting time was set for me. I desperately wish I had thought to shave beforehand. I’ve been using my beard to hide my weak chin, but it probably looks more unprofessional than-
“Hey, are you Martin Russo?”
Ah, I see.
Mister Falck is holding two cups of coffee and offers one of them to me with a smile. He’s got a full beard, a full belly, hair past his shoulders, and a pink hawaiian shirt to go with his khaki shorts and flip-flops. This man is clearly one of the most talented professionals working in the field today.
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“So, do you mind if I ask…” He motions to my cane while I take a seat.
“How that happened?”
“Yes.”
“That’s classified. I’m not even joking.”
He nods once, like that was more or less what he expected to hear. He leans back in his chair, which creaks a bit, and takes a slow drink from his coffee while reading on his computer. “So you studied at Columbia University before the Bombing?”
“Yes.”
“And your family lived in New York?”
“Yes.”
“I’m sorry to hear that.” He doesn’t say it unkindly, but he does say it as rote. ‘Oh you’re from one of the places that doesn’t exist anymore? Sorry to hear that.’
I nod awkwardly. “Yes.”
“And you were focusing on studying brain-computer interfacing?”
I feel like a recording. “Yes.”
“It’s very uncommon to add a student this late. The term begins today.”
“Yes.”
“We can’t provide housing for you on such a short notice, for one.”
“I have that handled, sir.”
He scrunches his face up. “Jonas, please. Americans are so formal.”
“Alright, er, Jonas.”
“So, Martin, what I’m asking for is a reason. To take you in right now, I mean, instead of next year.”
I nod. This is thankfully something I had planned for. My hand slips into my pocket, fingering the box holding the scanner electrodes. “Well, Jonas… I think there’s something you should take a look at.”
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Handling paperwork and basic orientation takes most of the morning. I manage to get morning-and-evening classes to share my time off with the lambchops. That only works because most people don’t want evening classes. Evenings are for partying if you’re a student, so late classes are mostly for adults with jobs.
I end up standing around nervously by the entrance to the university building, counting down the time. I watch people passing by as calmly as I can, still checking my pad every minute or so for any messages and jerking my head around like a bird at anything that’s even a bit of a shade of gray.
I can tell the alien girls are coming even before I see them, since everyone is glancing curiously their way. I straighten my back and shift my weight from foot to foot. I feel like a dog at an airport, waiting for the return of its owner.
They’re looking around as I see them, and Thiva’s the first to spot me. Her ears perk up and Vilek immediately looks to me as well. As they speed up into a sprint, I’m a bit surprised to see them both wearing clothes. Both girls are wearing custom boots made to fit their digitigrade legs.
They’re both wearing coveralls, Vilek’s in a hospital teal and Thiva’s in a bright red. It’s been explained to me that many at the university have a student culture of wearing colorful coveralls that they decorate with patches, called ‘Ovve’, and that Thiva’s red marks her as a mechanical engineering student. Vileks’s teal, presumably, mark her as studying healthcare. Or specifically therapy, perhaps. I need to look it up.
Seeing as computer science students are apparently expected to wear pink ones, I’m thinking I might sit out this grand and colorful tradition. On the other hand according to the Internet it’s an informal rule to cut a bit from the ‘Ovve’ of anyone you’ve exchanged body fluids with and patch it onto your own. So I suppose I could be convinced.
The girls collide with me, thankfully gently. Their tails are wagging like crazy out of the back of their outfits, and they’re clinging to me. I inhale deeply, take in the distinct and pleasant scent of my cute Venlil friends, and cling to them as well. My fingers stroke through their thick fur, and I hear their happy wordless bleating and whistling.
I close my eyes and enjoy the moment, not giving one whit for the passersby watching the scene.
“Oh, girls, I-” Vilek punches me in the arm unexpectedly. The right one, thankfully.
“Ow!”
Even though her ears signal joy and her tail is wagging, her voice is still stern. “We learned what ‘lambchops’ means!”
Ah.
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The student flat isn’t very expansive, but it’s larger than the one we shared on Venlil Prime. Probably because humans are just plain larger.
It’s currently sparsely furnished. There’s a couple of desks, a couch, a table, a beanbag chair, and a bunk bed. I take my shoes off in the hallway, as the girls do. When in Lund.
They help me unpack. There’s not a lot, but they had already set aside a little corner for me. I’ve got the beanbag chair instead of a desk, which I’m perfectly fine with.
I sigh and lean against a wall briefly. “I’m… so glad to be home.”
Thiva turns her head a little, flicking an ear in question. “You missed being on Earth?”
I chuckle, and pinch her ear-tip lightly. I lean over to give Vilek one too, for fairness. It earns me a pair of bleeps from them, and I go on the offensive to rub their heads and scratch their ears and do everything I can to make the lambchops squeal happily. They thankfully oblige. “I missed being with my herd.”
My friends are safe, they’re here with me, and we all have paths forward. I’ve fought and bled for this opportunity. I’m allowed to enjoy it.
I sit down on the couch with a quiet groan of satisfaction, finally getting to put my cane aside. “So, girls… how are you feeling about Earth so far?”
They grumble immediately. “It is so freaking cold!” “Snow! We do not like the snow!”
“It’s only for another couple of… Months.” They’re undressing right in front of me. I am left briefly stunned.
Oh right they don’t normally wear clothes.
Reminding myself of that doesn’t help. The context is what it is. They’re my best friends and my two favorite girls and they’re stripping naked before me.
My brain fails me. “…Okay, so, uhh. Um. Hmmh. Huh.”
Mother of God there’s nothing different! They’re naked. They’re always naked! It hasn’t been a problem on VP, it won’t be a problem here! Man up!
I take a deep and steadying breath and resolutely refuse to think of patches of white and red on a set of pink coveralls, with pink patches on their matching ones.
“I guess we should… buy some food? And some clothes for me to use? And…”
And they turn their heads toward me, staring at me with one eye each. Side by side. Making me feel like I'm being stared down by a single creature. One with forward-facing eyes. And an orange blush.
They take slow steps closer. Thiva speaks first with an amused lilt to her voice. “Or maybe this is a good time to talk. You know, about the house rules.”
Vilek speaks as well, moving her tail sinuously in a teasing motion. “Relationship statuses.”
Thiva comes in with the finisher, practically purring. “Sleeping arrangements.”
Ah.
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I've always had issues with my family, and I have slowly been spending less time with them as I found my mental health plummets even after a few days, but I've always visited them when asked.
I was in the car with my dad today, and usually I will initiate a conversation and talk to my dad. I just couldn't be bothered to try and talk to him. The worst part is that he just didn't try, so it kind of proved to me that he is disinterested. The only time he started a conversation was to tell me obviously my diet and exercise isn't going well.
The same few thoughts have just been going through my head and the idea of spending time with my family is just entirely off putting: - when my parents initiate contact it's always about the exact same thing: "have you been on a run today/are you going on a run today/are you doing on a run tomorrow/have you been to the gym today etc/do you think you've gained weight/do you think you've lost weight". That's all they ever want to talk about and the idea that that's all they think about when they look at me upsets me - my sister and mum were very homophobic towards me growing up and there has never been an apology and there will be no resolution because they have conveniently forgotten everything - my sister is generally a horrible person anyway and I already dont speak to her - I haven't spoken with my brother and SIL in months because I haven't initiated any conversation. I realised that almost 100% of the time when we had a "conversation" it was me sending detailed messages (like life updates etc) and at best receiving a one or two word response, but usually just a thumbs up reaction. My brother and SIL have never told me anything, I had to hear the following things from other people: when they got engaged, their wedding arrangements, when they were moving overseas, when my SIL had a cancer growth and subsequent surgery (in fact I was never told about it and just figured it out from conversations people were having in front of me) - my birthday is in less than a week. Normally we do things on birthdays. The past two years there has been an overseas trip for my sister's birthday. Not one person has messaged me about my birthday. I know I could plan it, but it's frustrating that they don't seem to care if nothing is planned with the family. - I keep remembering moments where I have left a room/gone to enter a room and my family have been making fun of me or saying things behind my back. I saw some messages my mum sent my sister saying I was "socially awkward with no experience" when the truth is my family don't see the real me as I've learnt to be quiet and not say much in case they start making fun of me. I'm not socially awkward, I just don't like being around my family.
I honestly don't know where I've gone wrong. I don't think I'm a bad person, I think I'm generally quite nice, but we all have our moments. I've always tried to maintain relationships with my family members but if the relationship is one sided I don't see any point in making an effort. I started crying earlier about all this and after about 5 seconds I snapped back to normal just thinking "I don't even care anymore!" Usually when my family makes me feel like this I cry (like real ugly cry) for like 20 minutes non-stop.
Even though it sucks it has to be this way I do think less time with my family will ultimately help me to be a happier person.

Hello. I know just from reading the title you are likely seething with rage and hate for Alexee. Likely you have already down voted this post. I am appalled by the number of people having already convicted Alexee and now want her lynched.
I am equally appalled by the amount of video the public has access too. This has tainted public opinion and makes it almost impossible she will be afforded a fair and unbiased trial based on actual evidence introduced in court. All of the surveillance video from inside the hospital should never have been released. This violates Hippa Laws and a patient's Right to Privacy. "When you use security cameras in a healthcare environment, the video footage that you record qualifies as PHI. As PHI, video surveillance footage must be protected according to HIPAA regulations.Jun 10, 2021"
Alexee was experiencing an acute medical and mental health emergency and the release / leak of hospital video violates her right to doctor patient confidentiality. For those whose blood is boiling what if this was inside an abortion clinic and a teenager was violated by the release of videos in a patient treatment area? Protesters would be enraged and demand action--where is the outrage here?
Based on the facts as currently known (no discovery yet just what is in public domain and can be verified) this is how I would defend Alexee during a trial. I ask you to consider all of the following:
--Innocence until proven guilty in a court of law--the cornerstone of our legal system and society.
I strenuously argue and expect the following be inadmissible and excluded from trial:
>All video of Alexee inside the patient treatment areas of the hospital--both security cameras and police body cameras excluded .
>Police bodycam footage from inside Alexee's treatment room should be Hippa protected. She has the expectation of doctor patient confidentiality. Police knew there was no crime actively happening inside the hospital room at the moment they entered. The question of IF a crime was committed already occurred in the toilet room previous to police arrival and there was no flight risk from Alexee in a hospital room with one way in and out.
Police violated her civil rights by entering her medical treatment room while Alexee was in a hospital bed. Further police by entering her hospital room delayed urgent medical care Alexee required and placed undue stressors on her during a critical moment when per the statements of the doctor she was hemorrhaging.
>At no point was she read her Miranda Rights. Any statements made during an acute medical and mental health crisis inside a treatment room without her being advised of her Miranda Rights cannot be used against her at trial.
--During all video of her in her treatment room and patient hallway areas--as has been so far illegally released to the public violating her Hippa rights-- Alexee was under the influence of pain medicine administered by the hospital.
Pain medicine alters how Alexee feels, her body's sensations, perception of said sensations, mental acuity, mental state, memory and cognitive ability--this is the whole purpose of pain medications. These are indisputable and known scientific facts for decades which have proven pain medications cause all of these reactions which is why every single pain med has strict warnings not to operate machinery, not to drive Et cetera, Et cetera, Et cetera........ (For those attacking Alexee as mentally deficient, "slow", retarded, "mentally off" and / or view her reactions as not appropriate the hospital had her hopped up on pain medications before she even went to the bathroom. I say shame on anyone convicting her in the court of public opinion under the influence of medication(s) and during an acute medical and mental health crisis.
>Purported pictures of Alexee with her cheer leading team in the grey shirt and holding the megaphone in her uniform. These pictures are all over the internet and have not been verified as authentic. I believe there is a high likelihood these particular pictures have been photo-shopped making them altered fakes. There are multiple indicators of the two most widely distributed photos showing they are not authentic.
The person who took said pictures, origin of the pictures, original metadata and chain of custody of these photos must be discovered and questioned. Once the absolute original files have been discovered, if they even exist, they need to be independently analyzed by a digital photography expert.
I ask everyone to please put the videos you have seen out of your mind as well as it should and will likely be for the jury during the trial. I ask you to consider the following facts as we understand them at this juncture. Use only the following facts to determine if there is any reasonable doubt concerning Alexee and what happened. Even a scintilla of doubt or uncertainty means Alexee should be adjudicated not guilty by a court.
During a trial I argue the following in defense of Alexee:
>Alexee is a teenager. She only recently turned 19. She is inexperienced in life, sex and relationships. Although technically an adult by a few weeks the law is contradictory. She is still in high school due to when she was born and started kindergarten. At 19 she cannot smoke cigarettes, vape or buy or drink alcohol. Society and the law has decided 19 is not old enough to make an informed decision on smoking and alcohol. Her mother treats her as a child.
>Alexee has been treated in such a way by her mother to be ashamed of teen sex and its possible consequences. Her mother despite good intentions created a relationship of shame regarding sex and loosing her virginity. Most teens and even young adults do not share intimate sexual details with theirs parents for many reasons. Consider the added stress the mother has created for years in a misguided attempt to protect her daughter.
People in general but especially children and teenagers deny they did something wrong when accused. A child is observed breaking an item and even though said child knows the parent saw her break the item often will deny they broke it when questioned. There are decades of child psychiatry and doctors to testify regarding this. Those young children grow up to be teenagers and if the parent(s) have not properly handled these learning opportunities at young ages the teenager will have--in this case 19 years--of improper responses of how to handle life.
>Alexee's mother was beaten and abused by her father so badly Alexee was born preterm with hip and spinal problems causing pain on and off her entire life. Imagine the unhealthy relationship regarding sex, men and pregnancy her mother--despite good intentions--during Alexee's life imprinted on a child and then a teen.
>Alexee was taking hormonal birth control pills. We do not know if these were prescribed for acne, menstrual problems or birth control reasons. If prescribed for acne or menstrual problems and Alexee's mom knew she was taking them this combined with her mom's many years worth of admonishment, forbidding and shaming of teen sex and her mother feeling confident her daughter was a virgin--this would create a mental assurance for her mother she could never possible be pregnant.
Likewise, regardless if Alexee was taking hormonal bc with or without her mom's knowledge she would be assured she was preventing any possibility of pregnancy and being safe. Hormonal bc is widely regarded as virtually 100% effective and the best non-surgical option for preventing an unwanted pregnancy. The Pill is the gold standard for being safe and responsible to the point it's common knowledge providing a false sense of security.
The pill is so ubiquitous as infallible even in pornographic videos it is commonplace for the teen or woman to state "pull out I'm not on the pill"--as if she was on the pill it would be 100% guaranteed safe. Teens and even adults are indoctrinated to commonly believe the pill is infallible--even in porn.
We know sex education is lacking in all public schools, her fundamentalist church certainly wasn't providing sex ed, her mom used fear, shame and abstinence as the only approach and her father was a scumbag abuser not even in her life in a meaningful way. Media targeted to teens promotes "safe sex" rarely making a point any bc can fail. It's promoted and considered as an absolute.
No matter how you consider the above facts both Alexee and her mom were very confident there was no way she could be pregnant. Taking the bc pill to Alexee was an assurance she could not become pregnant, she could not disappoint her mom--she was being safe with no risks and in a committed long term relationship. She wasn't "one of those girls" or the school slutt.
>Alexee gained some weight. Everyone knows the Pill can cause weight gain. Its the number one reason teenagers and young women state they don't want to take the pill. There is so much pressure on being thin--especially for a teenager and a high school student going to prom ect. When she noticed she gained some weight of course it was because of the bc pill. She can't be pregnant--of course not--because she's on the pill. How could she be? A quick Google search "can the pill make me gain weight" confirms its common.
If her mom knew about her being on BC this causes no alarms for her mom because not only does she believe her daughter is a virgin she's on the pill and the pill makes many women gain weight.
>Maybe--and we don't know--Alexee was on BC because of menstrual issues. If that was the case then any period irregularities would be explained by known period issues, the pill can make periods light or non-existent in many women so nothing to be worried about if she's irregular, besides irregular periods are common in teens--especially athletes, as a medical fact. It is well known many women bleed during pregnancy at the time when they expect to be having a period so think they are regularly menstruating.
There are even entire TV shows based on the woman not knowing she is pregnant--many are adults in their 30s, experienced in life and many even had previous children!! Plenty of incidents making this fairly common and plenty of respected medical doctors will testify in court to this phenomenon.
>Alexee was treated in the emergency room in December--one month prior--for back pain. The same back pain she experienced on and off her whole life--and the same back pain that would bring her to the ER the night she delivered. She would have been around 32 to 36 weeks pregnant (pregnancy full term is 40 weeks gestation even though everyone commonly thinks 9 months) and at the end of December when seen in the ER. No one, not a single medical professional noticed she was very pregnant while in the hospital four weeks prior to delivering a baby.
>Alexee tells her mom she is in pain in January and needs to go to the ER for treatment. This is significant. If Alexee knew she was pregnant and premeditated killing and hiding the baby from her mom, boyfriend and the world it makes absolutely no sense she would tell her mother she was in pain and needed to go to the hospital. If she premeditated murder and secrecy then she would not have presented herself to her mom in pain and needing medical help. Everyone has seen TV births--although not realistic--there is almost always pain and pushing and then a baby. So Alexee who has premeditated and purposely hidden 40 weeks or pregnancy fooling everyone--her mom, peers, boyfriend, coaches, teachers, nurses and doctors decides to tell her mom she needs to go to the hospital when IF she had realized she was pregnant and consciously hidden and schemed everything!?!?! This makes no sense.
We know for a fact she knew how to do things herself on the "down low". Afterall she wasn't having sex infront of her mom--she went somewhere private to do the deed. If her premeditated plan all along was to knowingly conceal........see where this is going?
>January ER visit considerations:
--Alexee's mom had three kids--makes her very experienced at pregnancy--and has no idea Alexee is pregnant.
>Alexee is seen by and triaged by a registered nurse. She does not notice she is full term and in active labor. The duty of and sole purpose of the triage nurse to identify acute medical conditions needing immediate and emergency treatment--like say heart attacks or active labor.
>Alexee is taken to a hospital exam room and seen by the intake nurse--another registered nurse-- who's duty is and is trained to takes vitals, acquire pertinent information, makes trained medical observations and prepares the patient for possible required exams for when the doctor arrives--all of this on behalf of the doctor.
This nurse does not notice she is full term pregnant and in active labor. Remember that part above "prepares the patient for possible required exams" if the nurse has any indications the issue was in anyway related to female reproductive organs or involved the vagina the nurse would have the patient--Alexee--change into a gown for a possible pelvic exam.
She does not do this--Alexee is not in a hospital gown so another registered nurse experienced in emergency medicine--nurse number two--is completely oblivious to a full term pregnancy and active labor.
>The doctor comes into the exam room. This is a licensed and trained medical doctor specializing in emergency medicine. She speaks with and presumably examines Alexee for her back pain--to do anything less is malpractice. This medical doctor, certified and practicing emergency medicine orders pain medicine administered to Alexee.
We have a trained and experienced MEDICAL DOCTOR that does not realize Alexee is full term pregnant and in active labor. Remember those photos on the internet I discussed earlier and believe them to be faked and photo-shopped? If they were real and she was that visibly pregnant tell me two registered nurses and a licensed medical doctor given the symptoms displayed, age of the patient and the obvious dynamic between mom and daughter about keeping her virginity and you still don't this she is full term pregnant and in active labor.
The dynamic observed between Alexee and her mom the doctor had the DUTY as a standard of car to ask the mother to leave the exam room so she could privately discuss things with Alexee.
>We have all been in the hospital and ER so we all know how this goes. We know another nurse came to administer the pain meds and to administer test(s) order by the doctor. (we also know this by the police interviews of all medical personal involved)
This is nurse number three not noticing a teenage girl is full term and in active labor!!! Not just any registered nurse but the Emergency Room CHARGE NURSE--the head of the nurses in the ER at that time. (he's the male nurse in the videos wearing a skull cap).
>We know one of the tests ordered by the doctor and administered was a pregnancy test. A pregnancy test that results POSITIVE. We have a teen girl patient in extreme pain who is sure she isn't pregnant and is adamant she is not pregnant because I don't believe she thought she was. This patient is in an exam room and you the medical staff and especially the doctor DO NOT immediately return to the exam room to conduct a simple and quick pelvic exam (which doesn't even require a doctor a nurse can do and routinely do pelvic exams).
>Instead the doctor orders an ultrasound. So time passes when a quick pelvic could have been done but wasn't and in comes the ultrasound tech. She DOES NOT HAVE THE PROPER WAND ATTACHMENT TO CONDUCT A PREGNANCY ULTRASOUND. On top of this she is an Ultrasound tech--certified and trained--and even after attempting an unsuccessful ultrasound doesn't realize Alexee is full term pregnant with a baby literally in the birth canal in active labor.
Keep in mind the certified and trained ultrasound tech who has done presumably dozens, if not hundreds, if not thousands of ultrasounds on pregnant women in labor--because ultrasounds are common in virtually every pregnancy--this tech doesn't realize Alexee is full term and in active labor.
We KNOW the ultrasound tech had to pull up Alexee's shirt to expose the skin on her stomach to attempt the ultrasound (because you can't do an ultrasound without skin to wand contact via some snot-like medical grade jelly).
IF the tech thought Alexee was in active labor, full term and close to delivering does anyone not think she wouldn't tell a nurse or the doctor?? "Hey you better check on this girl right now?"
>None of the medical staff even tells Alexee her pregnancy test was positive. Alexee and her mom still have no idea Alexee is pregnant.
>Alexee feels like she needs to use the bathroom--to have a bowel movement. The nurses and doctor allow her to get up, unaccompanied and waddle / run holding her bottom all the way down the hall. Alexee has NO IDEA she is pregnant--has never been told by any medical staff and didn't see the baby on the ultrasound because the tech botched the procedure not having the correct wand.
>Common knowledge to most people--lay people--as a baby enters the birth canal and crowns the woman feels an overwhelming urge to have a bowel movement. We expect even at the lowest and most minimal level of care by registered nurses and licensed doctors to know a woman in labor experiences a sensation of needing to have a BM before the baby is born. Medical facts and training teaches nurses and doctors to instruct the woman to push the baby out as if she was pushing to have a BM. We know virtually every woman has a BM at some point while pushing.
Alexee and her mom still have no idea she is pregnant at this point despite being seen by three registered nurses, an ultrasound tech and a licensed MEDICAL DOCTOR.
The medical staff KNOWS 100% Alexee is pregnant-and has known long enough to send in an ultrasound tech perform a botched ultrasound--and yet the medical staff knowing all of this allows Alexee to waddle-run down a hall holding her bottom, ALONE and be in a bathroom over 20 minutes.
We are so far past medical malpractice on so many levels to the point of gross negligence and blatant disregard for Alexee-the patient. I've seen a lot of cases of malpractice at busy hospitals but nothing has ever come close to the malpractice and willful disregard for patient care and safety as I have learned in this case.
>Alexee, doesn't know shes pregnant, feels like she needs to have an urgent BM. She's on the toilet, shes in pain, pushing feels good because that is what her body is telling her and everyone knows if you feel super constipated with a huge and heavy poop that's stuck as soon as you get it out you will feel better.
At some point Alexee's body takes over--humans are animals--and like animals a body will birth a baby as an automatic process regardless if the mom is ready or not. Regardless if the mom is even conscious or not--after all comatose patients have delivered babies spontaneously.
This is that time.
I know everyone is going to shout but she should have called for help ect ect.
Really think about this and consider:
>Alexee is a teenager, young and inexperienced with her body and womanhood. She only just barely meets the legal definition as an adult buy mere weeks and can't even buy vape or a pack of smokes and she's still in high school. An adult by technicality only she is in high school, acts very immature and has not had any life experiences as an adult.
>Alexee has been to the ER twice in 30 days time and is in the ER at this very moment sitting on a toilet with an incredible urge to poop, she's seen by half a dozen trained medical professionals even just moments ago and she knows they gave her a pregnancy test "just in case" and no one has told her she's pregnant, she's scared to death but in her mind she's on the birth control pill and not a single person at the hospital during two visits has told her she's pregnant. She has NO idea a baby is about to come out. It's not possible to her and based on all we know she has confirmation in her mind time and time and time again she is NOT PREGNANT. In fact, she is on her period she thinks, she sees blood--yes confirmation of period, cramps, pain, nausea--all valid, legitimate and known period indicators. She can't be pregnant as we have established and since she is at the hospital they would have told her if she was. She has back problems, thinks she is on or starting her period and is constipated worse than she has ever been--of course combined these are the cramps and pain from the pitts of hell.
>Experts will testify at some point in that toilet room she disassociates with her body. Now she is in fear, overwhelming pain, anxiety, young with limited life experience. She has been drugged by the doctors with pain medicine which affects her sensations and cognitive abilities and decision making. She wants to yell for help but she can't. There is no voice, no words and no actual realization as to what is happening to her.
>This is NOT unheard of. Fear is a power controller. Every person responds differently. Many people do nothing and totally freeze and are oblivious to external stimuli. History is full of people--aged and experienced adults who are trained professionals in life and death situations who freeze and cannot function or function in a totally illogical way.
--The airline pilot who despite thousands of hours of flight experience suddenly forgets how to fly or simply does nothing. Or does something so incredibly stupid and so contradictory to every bit of training and flying instinct makes the wrong response causing the plane to crash. (Atlas Air B767 / Continental Express Q400 / UPS A300)
--Trained soldiers in battle firing on their own fellow soldiers wearing the same uniform right in front of them but in that moment they kill their friends.
--A veteran police officer responding to a school shooting in Florida so overcome with fear he cannot enter the building to do the job he has trained, practiced and done for 25 plus years of his career resulting in dozens of children dying or injured.
--A respected gray-haired "old salt" ship captain who has crossed the Atlantic hundreds of times in his 50 year career--actually the admiral of the fleet-- who becomes impotent when his ship hits an iceberg and after giving the orders to evacuate disappears from leadership. (Titanic)
The recent Idaho murders the downstairs roommate, who has experienced actual adult experiences living on her own in college, comes FACE-TO-FACE with the killer while her four friends and roommates are bleeding out locks herself into her room, goes to bed and does NOTHING for hours until the net day. This is despite her admitting she heard a pained / muffled scream, moaning, an unknown voice and came face-to-face with the killer POTENTIALLY while the victims could have been saved with immediate medical care. She is defended by society as bearing no burden or negligence because she was young, scared and had been partying so was under the influence of substances.
Wait a minute........so was Alexee. Ironically some of the same people in this very forum who defended the Idaho roommate for being completely without burden by ignoring and going back to bed want to lynch Alexee or lock her up for her entire life.
Can we under all of these circumstances expect a teenage girl who has every legitimate reason to be sure she is NOT pregnant and not in labor expect her to be rational in this moment?
If Alexee herself didn't know she was pregnant, had no reason to expect she was pregnant, was on birth control, her mom who has had three pregnancies doesn't notice, her peers don't notice, her teachers don't notice, her coaches, her church, her boyfriend AND....
TWO VISITS TO THE ER / HOSPITAL 30 DAYS APART
the visit where the birth occurred:
THREE REGISTERED NURSES
ULTRASOUND TECH
EMERGENCY ROOM DOCTOR / LICENSED MD
If ALL of the people in Alexee's life and ESPECIALLY TRAINED MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS did not notice or realize she was not only pregnant but in active labor HOW CAN WE EXPECT ALEXEE--a teenager--TO REALIZE THIS WHEN SHE TOOK HERSELF TO A HOSPITAL WANTING HELP?
The hospital and its staff disgust me. They acted with total disregard to Alexee and human life. Not a single nurse or doctor even bothered to try and resuscitate the baby when it was found. Most likely the baby was beyond resuscitation but for medical professionals in a hospital to not even attempt to save the baby after totally botching the standard of care for Alexee up to this point shows how criminally negligent everyone who treated Alexee that night is culpable for the death of a child.
The state has WAY overcharged Alexee. At most she should be facing abuse of a corpse. She needs mental help not jail. She is not likely to ever re-offend.
The ER doctor should be charged with manslaughter and negligence resulting in a death as her level of care was grossly negligent.
My heart goes out to the little boy who is not live--stillborn or otherwise. All life is precious.
So is Alexee and her life. This is beyond horrible for all involved. Every single person in Alexee's life failed her time and time again.
Do not as a jury pr society fail her again and sentence her to life in prison. There is so much reasonable double of premeditation and medical negligence / indifference in this case it would be criminal for a jury to convict her of Premeditated Murder in the 1sr degree.
I pray for everyone involved on so many levels. This case has no winners--only losers . Every single person in contact at any point with Alexee--but especially on the night in question-- and Alexee herself has a heavy cross to bear for the rest of their lives.
The nurses and ultrasound tech should be retrained, put on probation to be monitored making sure they have the skills and judgements needed to care for patients and the medical doctor should lose her license.
Alexee especially as well as her mother and boyfriend need education and counseling.
Thank you for your time and consideration.
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When booking a place in a city today, the listing said there was no onsite parking. Since I was driving there, I needed to find some place to park. I wanted to book a parking spot up front so when I got there I didn't have to find spend time looking for parking.
So I had to go and search around for parking nearby. It was an extended stay too so that made it even more difficult - I needed to find a place that had availability for a few weeks. Since the city where I was going to stay wasn't too far from where I'm currently at, I was able to drive into the city and look around. After 60 minutes or so I managed to find a parking garage nearby that had reasonable monthly rates. I had to call someone, go to some website, find the a garage nearby (fumbling through their non-intuitive UI) and book it.
How does everyone else go about finding parking nearby?

So I can't have THC, it makes me straight up hallucinate and sick as fuck. I've never had anything with THC and didn't end up puking. The last time I tried was like 3 years ago. Fast forward to about 2 months ago, I started taking CBD gummies (brand: Swag) and I finally felt like maybe I had found something I could take for insomnia/anxiety. I was taking them daily and felt fine. They just mellowed me out. Fast forward yet again to this past week. Whenever I took one, I felt incredibly loopy/out of it. To the point my 13 year old made a comment asking if I had been drinking (sober for almost a year).
Then, last night it got worse. I took my gummy before bed like always and within 20 minutes I felt FUCKED UP. Like room spinning, apparently my youngest son came in my room and I barely even remember it. I hated the way I was feeling and just forced myself to keep my eyes closed and try to fall asleep but my heart was racing and I was freaking out. I hate the feeling of being intoxicated now after quitting drinking. It's the worst. I ended up sitting up and leaning over the bed and vomited. I couldn't physically get up and take myself to the bathroom, I tried and it was like my feet were just bolted to the floor. My 13 yr old heard me puking and brought in a bucket for me. It went on for no less than 2 hours. It got to the point I was just dry heaving and choking on my own gagging, all while being totally out of it panicking thinking I was going to die. It was intense. I started puking up blood (I think it was either from irritation to my throat, or my sinuses drying out but idk for sure) but either way I was non stop puking. Everytime I would feel "better", as soon as I moved even the slightest amount it would come back and I'd be puking again. I had to sit completely still to get any type of relief and for the room to stop sitting. Even blowing my nose was too much movement.
What the fuck gives man. I've been taking these gummies for a couple months now but it's like my body all of sudden doesn't like them? Idk.
And no, it wasn't just a stomach bug or something. I felt perfectly fine up until taking the gummies, and I feel fine today (aside from my throat feeling like it's on fire and body aches from violent vomiting). And it wasn't just throwing up, I felt FUCKED UP. Like I had spent all night chugging vodka on an empty stomach.
I won't be taking them anymore, which sucks because they initially did help with my anxiety. Has anyone else had an experience like mine? I keep reading that CBD doesn't get you fucked up because it doesn't have psychoactive properties or whatever. But it definitely did get me fucked up, in the worst way imaginable.

So all but 11 of the passengers make it back to April 7, 2013. They return to JFK to see Obama is still the President. So they have 9 years worth of future knowledge. The Boston Marathon bombings will occur in eight days.
Could the 828ers stop the Boston Marathon bombing from happening? Or prevent a certain owner of a tower in New York City to become the 45th POTUS?

Hiya folks,
Just recently moved to Portsmouth and had a couple of drunk guys talk to me about my accent. I'm from Aberdeen but Dundee came up in conversation and I'm going to quote exactly what they said (bare in mind they were plastered);
"What is it about Dundee voices and deep? Something about duke and their voices go all deep and gravely?"
Duke? What the hell? I asked if they meant jute (jam and journalism) multiple times but they insisted it was duke/juke. Fella then proceeded to roleplay as someone typing at a desk and told me to come up and say "wow this duke is wonderful".
I've been googling non-stop for the past 20 hours trying to find what he could be talking about - my partner is from Arbroath and has no idea, I'm obviously Aberdonian and only lived in Dundee for a year so I've no clue. Is this some type of English stereotype of Dundonians that exists?

To drop some backstory, the United Republic of Algonia have collapsed into civil war and the attack of three trade ships from the United Terran Federation, the United State of Kargham and the Perseus Khanate, resulting in complaints to the Galactic Council, a form of space UN. The major powers (such as the Codelli Federation, Trade Confederation of Atlas, Ares Imperium and Union of Duroon, which are mixed species superpowers which have both human and xeno populations), not wanting to care about anything related to Outer Rim countries when they're in the Galactic Core, said that they may not intervene but they won't stop the UTF, USK and the Perseus Khanate from taking matters in their own hands if diplomacy failed but fight in respect to standard rules of engagement. And because Algonia has resources they want, it was all the leeway they need.
So, Terra, the Karghamites and Perseus created the Inner Rim Coalition (nevermind the fact that the Inner Rim has up to 900 different countries and only three made up this force) were mobilized for war against these factions in the United Republic of Algonia:
1) The Patriotic Front: Right leaning paramilitaries and the Algonian Interstellar Forces Star Armada and Space Marines that supported the Patriotic Front and the Algonian People's Party
2) The Popular Front: Left leaning paramilitaries and the Planetary Militia of the Algonian Interstellar Forces that supported the Popular Front and the National Labor Party.
Now, here's the dilemma: The Inner Rim Coalition are limited by the Rules of Engagement influenced by the Geneva Conventions of Stellar Warfare, which lays out these don'ts and dos of warfare:
DON'Ts
1) DO NOT use your ship's cannons to perform an Armageddon level orbital bombardment of city centers and civilian targets. Only use orbital bombardments on specific military targets.
2) DO NOT use nuclear missiles on planets.
3) DO NOT destroy civilian space stations or ships.
4) DO NOT use star bombers to strike high population areas in strategic bombing runs. Only use star bombers in a tactical, CAS role if they have precision weaponry.
5) DO NOT destroy planets
6) DO NOT shoot at escape pods
7) DO NOT shoot civilians and soldiers that have surrendered
8) DO NOT use torture as an interrogation method
9) DO NOT do nerve stapling
10) DO NOT hold hostages
DOs
1) DO rescue escape pods after battle
2) DO evacuate civilians
3) DO have due process for combatants that surrendered
4) DO keep civilian casualties to a minimum
So with that said, and the Popular Front and Patriotic Front, both blinded by ideology and not fully passing the definition of a regular armed forces and also have irregular forces in their ranks, how would an engagement work out between the attacker, the Inner Rim Coalition, that follows RoE while the defender, the Popular Front and Patriotic Front, who would want to win at any costs, does not follow said rules?

It’s not really important to detail everything of the next few weeks, word did spread that the Walkers were leaving again, of course, there was no way to keep that secret. Packing had to be done, after all, and arrangements for the house had to be made.
There was simply no way to keep our going ‘completely quiet’. So the neighbors started to come by asking questions.
“Should we leave too?”
“Am I going to end up with more bits of shrapnel in my kitchen?”
“Do I need to get more stuff to patch bullet holes?”
“I assume we go to the same hotel as last time, or will it be a different one?”
It was frequent enough that we held another ‘neighborhood barbecue’ where William explained over sizzling meat and a mix of real beer and that abomination to all civilized species ‘non-alcoholic beer’ that, “You are in no danger. We are leaving for a government assignment, but it is not one that puts any of you at anymore risk than yesterday or the day before. I promise, there won’t be any crazy masked gunmen showing up and disturbing the peace.”
William’s reputation was one of truthfulness, and it probably didn’t hurt that making sure the neighbors were safe had been a priority last time.
‘Last time… for the sake of the void… how many shenanigans are we supposed to get involved in?’ I asked myself that question while sipping on a very large ‘wood bottle’. This was a wonderful innovation in alcoholic beverages. Instead of ‘glass’ this ‘wood’ actually added a wonderful earthiness to the beer, making it smoother and far more full bodied than the glass counterpart.
It had its drawbacks, of course, if you didn’t want that added flavor, you had to use glass, but I found it to be positively delectable, if a little ‘thicker’ than my usual preferences.
I had a great fondness for ales, particularly the more ‘aggressive’ ones with an immediate sort of bite to them. They weren’t to be ‘chugged’ like the bland and fizzy ones that had all the kick of a sleeping toddler. No, no, these powerful ones were meant to be ‘swigged’. You take one big swig at a time, savor the richness, the full flavor, the taste, and the feel of it going down.
It’s about here I should mention that ‘beer clubs’ and ‘bourbon buddies’ were starting to gain popularity among dlamisa.
It began with the Ballyball League of Earth and Dlamias. As part of their training for the sport, teams ‘ran’ a great deal, and they learned of an ancient Earth organization that survived through the centuries called the Hash House Harriers, ‘drinkers with a running problem’ as they are popularly known.
These organizations around the world would lay out trails and follow them in search of alcohol at various stopping points. They would drink together and have a grand old time, and be rather intoxicated by the end of it all. From this my people innovated various ‘fan clubs’ for certain alcohol organizations that would sponsor their runs in exchange for filming their gatherings.
Naturally I set up a few gambling options for people to bet on my players during training, but out of these grew specific off-field rivalries which were now starting to spread to my home world, usually run out of coffee establishments.
This might be the thing that made someone decide to put me at risk. I will probably never know the answer to that one.
It didn’t matter. Not really.
I was standing there among my friends, family, neighbors, with warmth and welcome, with the smell of good food cooking and people wishing me well on my ‘business trip’ and I knew I was doing the right thing.
This was the reason, this was the point of it all, to bring ‘this’ not just to me, but to everybody.
Every drop of blood that spread in my arena, every credit that flowed into my exponentially growing cooperative organization… all of it was serving this single purpose. ‘I will see my will done. I will bring it all down.’ I vowed and took another swig from my bottle. Latunde was telling a joke, and I huffed politely.
A good man, a good neighbor. And a surprisingly good actor considering he ran a feed store, his pretend police situation when we were making our evacuation a few years ago was really well done.
But I couldn’t pay attention to jokes right then.
I went back into the house and up to Fauve’s room. I knocked, “Come in.” She answered.
I expected this, she was never particularly social, and didn’t care for large gatherings of people. I still wasn’t the biggest fan of those, but…alcohol makes everything much easier.
“Hi.” I said, poking my head in without entering. “How are you?”
She was seated at her terminal, pounding away at ‘nothing’. But she had a virtual headset on so there was ‘something’ to her.
“Fine. I’m just taking care of some things. Writing out some notes, researching the Praeda species that we’re going to meet, writing my will, breaking up with my girlfriend, the usual sort of thing that happens every…single…time I think life is going to finally come out of warp and let us relax.” She said it with such deadpan humor that I almost missed it.
“I’m sorry.” I said and slipped into the room, closing the door behind me, I went and sat down on her bed.
“For what? You didn’t do anything wrong.” Fauve answered, though she didn’t take her attention off her work. “This is just more of the usual, and if anybody is to blame, it’s me. I could have faded into the background. I could have just let everything go back to normal. I could have just shut my mouth after everything was over the first time… but no. I didn’t. I didn’t and now I can’t have a moment’s peace or normalcy. I had to be media personality, a speaker, a filmmaker a….” She trailed off and slapped her palms down on the desk. “I did this to myself. Now I’m going to be alone again because I just can’t say no. Michael is going to lose years with his friends. You’re being thrown back into god knows what, mom and dad are… no, they’re fine, to them this will be a vacation, if anything.” She sighed.
“My point is, Bailey, you don’t have anything to apologize for. I’m just, I’m stressed out a little.” Fauve said to me and I swallowed hard and nodded.
“I know what you mean.” I said, I chose not to mention the pseudo-attempt on my life, but added, “This is a disruption to my life too, and… a lot of things are going to change, even if things go well, maybe ‘especially’ if they do.” I got up and went to put my hand on her shoulder.
Fauve leaned back, rocking her chair so that it hit my waist, her head was against my fur, “And I don’t think I did anything wrong here but… I’m sorry that things aren’t as easy for you as you deserve. I mean that.” I promised.
She cracked a smile beneath her headset.
“Yeah, yeah, well it’s not like space is boring. No human has ever been out that far before, so we get to be a first… but even so? I’m tired of having to end relationships over work. It happened with Halbert, it happened with… wait… has it ever not happened that way?” Fauve stopped and thought that over.
I wasn’t surprised she referenced her first romantic interest. Humans tend to template all later relationships on the basis of their earlier ones, and Fauve tended to be hyperfocusd on what she was engaged in at any given moment, so I wasn’t surprised that she would never have really looked at how something over ‘played out’ in the end. Not until she had a reason to.
“Wow… yeah… everything always ended because of something work related… if not mine, then theirs. Damn.” She sighed as that understanding hit home.
Humans have in my observations, a tendency to blind themselves to what is happening, they don’t always see underlying causes for what goes awry in their lives, and as such they may miss patterns that will not be missed by other species. It makes them interesting to be around, at least.
“I’m taking a long vacation when I get back.” She promised herself and slumped. “Maybe I should sell the rights to that game series and turn my attention to something new… I…” Fauve shook her head, “Bailey, do you think it’s possible to be too career focused?”
I squeezed my hand on her shoulder a little nad cocked my head. “You’re asking me that question? Fauve, I came here on a fifty year doctoral program, I’m the last person you should ask that question.”
She was quiet for a moment before she quipped, “Alright, that’s fair. But after this is over, I’m definitely taking a break. Maybe I’ll just rewrite this breakup note and explain that because of work that we need to ‘go on a break’ no questions asked after I get back.”
It was of course possible that the other person would ‘move on’ and there was nothing to come back to when Fauve did return, however this did leave the possibility open at least. “I think that’s wise.” I said with a gentle voice.
“You should invite them to Waterland Park with everybody else.” I suggested, but Fauve shook her head.
“No. No. I have to face this one on my own. If I can walk in there and walk past that place without a problem, on my own, I can finally put the last bit of that bastard behind me.” She said it with such iron resolve that it was hard for me to imagine she wouldn’t be able to do it.
“You won’t be alone, you know that.” I reminded her.
She smiled again.
“That’s not quite what I mean, Bailey… but thank you. I still have some work to do here, but, would you be a friend and bring me a beer while I finish this up… and maybe a hamburger?” She asked.
“Sure thing, Fauve.” I said, and left her room again.

So, my (f26) oldest friend (f29) from college recently got pulled over and booked for a DUI. Her logic was that she doesn’t live in a metro city and thought she could take backroads (though that’s no excuse). With that being said, I’ve known people who have drank over the limit (some have crashed) but no one was hurt and no cops were ever involved. My problem is that I take this stuff really seriously. Just hearing the stories of family’s being broken, people losing their lives just driving home for work, it’s horrible. I don’t know what to do because she’s always been there for me and deep down I know she’s a good person but I don’t know how to stop judging her or feeling some off way about it. I see her differently and I feel really bad about it. What do I do??

As astrologers we know it doesnt matter what we do , we cannot stop the coming big takeover.
As ancient reincarnated beings who still follow the way of the Tao, we will continue to do nothing.
Please participate with us in our non action as we sit idly by and watch big tech take away rights we never actually had in world that doesn't actually exist.
Kind regards,

Here's a wild MMPR theory..
While training hard for the pan Global games Kimberly could not stop missing Tommy during her time away. Coach Schmidt seeing that her mind was pre occupied told her that she needed to decide on what she wanted in life and that she couldn't think of Tommy if she wanted to focus on her career. Ultimately Kim made the sad decision to break up with Tommy via letter and pretended that she had met someone else so that he wouldn't attempt to win her back.
During time away from training she decides to go visit her mother in France. Around the same time Bulk & Skull are on their secret mission in Paris. Kim bumps into Skull and is reminded of home which she misses dearly. The two connect and end up kissing and having a fling. Kim tells Skull to breathe a word of this to no one and he agrees. Bulk & Skull are fired from their mission and return home with their tails between their legs.
Meanwhile Kim finds out that she is pregnant and doesn't know what to do. This could mean the end of her gymnastics career and she usually turns to Tommy for advice but can't and she can't let Skull know because then everyone in Angel Grove will find out. She messages an old friend in Jason who is close with her and Tommy after finding out that Jason is in the area and planning to take a flight out soon when she returns to the US for her journey back to Florida.
She confides in Jason that she is pregnant but does not reveal the father. It's around this time they spend time together to try and take Kim's mind off things and are captured in the Turbo movie. At the end of the Turbo movie they hug with Kim telling Jason thank you after he tells her that her secrets safe with him.
Kimberly eventually down the line reveals to Skull that he is indeed the father to a young boy named Spike. With Kim training all the time Spike opts to want to go live with his dad and get to know him better. Around this time Skull works hard to support his son and has a happy living. However Skull also has some very important work time away which means that Spike has to spend time with Uncle Bulk which he does in Samurai.
Its unknown at this point whether or not Bulk or even Tommy and company know of Spikes mother but you could look at Forever Red as an example of how Tommy and Jason's relationship has changed over the years. They remained good friends but Jason became somewhat distant and a lone wolf harbouring a secret from his friend that could have massively changed his life despite everyone having moved on.

I had been seeing a girl long distance for about 2 months, we met on a dating app. First month was great, non stop chatting, talking, sexting, then we met each for the first time during her birthday weekend and she wanted to continue seeing me and wants to meet up again during Summer when she's going to visit my city.
After she returned back to her city the conversations grew shorter but still warm until 3 weeks ago, when she told me she had a panic attack. She grew quite distant and when I asked what's up she explained that she mistakenly changed the time she's taking her antidepressants and it messed her mood up so she felt the need to take a break on being on the phone in general and only keep touch with her parents for a while. (She didn't give an estimate how long a break it'll be) I took it well and supported her, though it's been 2 weeks since we last had that talk, and ever since I reached out to her twice, once after 1,5 weeks to ask how is she holding up, and 2 days ago just to share some photos I took in the day, then asked her it's been some time and it'd be nice to update each other on how we're doing once in a while. She didn't reply to the messages. She saw the first one, the second one is on "unread" even though she had been online each day.
Even though I have been through severe depression before, I never have been on antidepressants or had a panic attack in my life, so I just want to have your opinion if this is normal and expected? How long does this state last usually if you have first hand experience or know someone close who has experienced something similar? I don't know what should I do. Or was this an unclear and weird way to break up with me? More than 2 weeks of no communication when we're only 2 months in feels very awkward. Much appreciated for your comments.

For context I use Galsiah's Character Developement, though the question remains pretty adjacent to vanilla, albeit with strength based HTH damage on.
I recently raised a hand to hand/ unarmored type monk char, and although he can drop Golden Saints without being of any real danger while doing so, it is a click fest. HTH is perfectly viable, but One Punch Man you are not. Im not made of mouses (mice?) here.
I am weighing the options of getting heavy armor and armorer in the mix to really amp that strength and by extension the stopping power of his fists. But I dont want to go through some of the more tedious aspects of heavy armor and armorer (weight/inventory management issues) unless there is an appreciable boost to the very important STR and END stats that traditional monks are typically lacking in, and lose interest in another character after I have spent 20 hours getting their main skills up there just to be underwhelmed by the result.
The desired end result would be to do the heavy armoarmorer early and often to boost that strength and combat squishiness, but graduate to unarmored for the speed boost.
I am aware there are magickal options like Absorb/Damage Fatigue/Paralyze and such, but it is (perhaps) my vain hope to punch all these jive suckas down in a more efficient manner, and not magickally paralyzing them and whaling on their inert forms which feels sadistic and dishonorable.
I know they are dead but I like to pretend that they are really unconscious from an a** whuppin' and not murdered in hot blood or manslaughtered in self-defense so as to preserve the "heroic" image of my avatar. He is a good guy and a friend of the people, but if you threaten him and his and can't be reasoned with, you will get your a** handed to you. Non-lethally.
Anyone have experience of tailoring a character with these sort of parameters and being happy where they are at level 30? Or am I just fixin' to do me a big disappoint?

The Itinerary—
Day 0: Nonstop flight to Rome
Day 1: Landed in Rome early in the morning and got an early check-in to the hotel. Got oriented to the city by walking around Piazza del Popolo, Spanish Steps and Trevi Fountain
Day 2: Visited the Trevi Fountain quickly before our 8:55 guided tour of the Colosseum Arena and Forum. In the afternoon, visited the Capitoline Museums and walked around Tiber Island and a bit of Trastevere
Day 3: 7:45 guided tour of the Vatican and St Peters Basilica. After lunch, walked around Campo di Fiori and visited Piazza Navona as well it’s underground
Day 4: Attended a cooking class where we made pasta and tiramisu. Afterwards, visited the Roman National Museums
Day 5: Day trip to Orvieto. Visited the duomo, underground caves, and St Patricks Well
Day 6: Early train to Florence. Walked around the Duomo before lunch. Afterwards, climbed Brunelleschi’s Dome. For the rest of the day, walked around the Ponte Vecchio area.
Day 7: Took a guided day trip to 2 Tuscan towns. Spent time walking around Siena before a winery tour and lunch in a Tuscan winery. After lunch, visited San Gimignano before heading back to Florence
Day 8: Visited the Uffizi right when it opened and then climbed Giottos Bell Tower before lunch. Saw the David afterwards before relaxing in the evening and enjoying a Florentine T-bone steak
Day 9: Morning train to Venice. After checking into the hotel, visited St Marks Basilica, wandered Dorsoduro, and rode in a gondola
Day 10: Got up at 4:30 to watch the sunrise, wandered around the San Marco area without the crowds and then did the secret itinerary tour of Doges Palace. In the afternoon, walked around in the Cannaregio area before spending the evening at St Marks Square
💶 The Cost for Two People—
Attractions and Tours: €1200 ——I did a small group tour for the Colosseum, Vatican, and Tuscan winery
Hotels: €1700 ——All 3 star hotels near the city centers
Meals/Drinks/Gelato: €1000 ——Ate a light breakfast everyday and ate out at a sit down restaurants for almost all meals (skipped maybe 2 dinners if I had a big lunch)
Flights: €3300 ——Nonstop flight from the US to Rome and 1 stop from Venice back to the US
Transport within Italy: €300 ——Prima Class on Italo trains, ubers, vaporetto pass, transport to/from airport
TOTAL COST: €7500
Travel tips I learned: 1. Book tours for important sites and get into sites right before they open or close. I got the earliest tour for the Colosseum and shared the arena floor with the 4 other people in our group. Surprisingly, it never felt crowded in the Colosseum

1. Only book SMALL or private tours. Both tours for Colosseum and Winery had 6 people total whereas the Vatican tour had maybe 15. For me, having 15 people in a group was way too many. I think that for crowded/popular sites, spend the money for private tours or tours that have less than 10 people.
   
2. Don’t only visit the big cities. I enjoyed Orvieto and Siena way more than Florence and Venice. (Rome was my favorite stop though)
   
3. Get up early or stay up late. I got up for sunrise at Venice and it was magical. Completely different than during the day and 10 times better
   

So last night my players made it to the Wailing Statue in Betrayers’ Rise. The descended into the chamber thanks to the blood wizards feather fall. When they landed ALL 4 of the PCs failed their charisma saves. So all 4 wanted to kill each other. The wizard failed the worst, so I had him make a surprise round. Which was of course fireball. The party hadn’t rested since the spider chamber and the hall of chains. They weren’t in deaths door, but they were low on spell slots and other abilities. The tempest cleric and armorer artificer failed their Dex saves for the fireball. The gunslinger fighter succeeded. Then combat starter. The fighter had top initiative and immediately made their save from the curse. They made a run to get behind one of the arms of torog and used their action to hide. I’m fuzzy on the initiative order at this point but here’s the highlights. The cleric used her highest level spell slot to shoot a guiding bolt at the wizard, but the wizard counter spelled. The artificer, with no more spell slots left, used his lightning launchers on the wizard as well. Doing some damage. Now for the wizard… That fireball was his last 3rd level spell slot, BUT, when he decided to play a blood wizard, we looked up some homebrew blood spells. One being Living Bomb. Basically it causes the target blood to explode. Pretty cool. The only thing is…when the target is reduced to 0 hit points as a result of Living Bomb, the creature explodes. So the wizard targets the artificer with Living Bomb. Artificer fails the save and is reduced to 0 hit points. Now, I’m all for a brutal game, BUT I don’t particularly love it when my players die. But I didn’t want to just wave off the wizards spell. So I had the artificer make an arcana check against the wizard spell DC which was 15. Artificer rolled a 7 on the dice. + 8 for his arcana. 15. Meets it beats it. So instead of the artificer exploding, I had his Arcane Armor be the target of the spell, destroying the armor. Which for the artificer was still a big deal. And the wizard thought it was awesome. Another part of the Living Bomb is that the explosion deals damage to nearby creatures. That damage drops the cleric.
Next round. The fighter runs out and makes a medicine check on the cleric, stabilizing her. The artificer (who I decided was left with 1 hp) succeeded in his check to no longer be cursed. He ran back and used cure wounds on the cleric. The cleric then used Hold Person on the wizard, buying them some time. Next round, the artificer runs up the wizard yelling at him to snap out of it, making non lethal attacks with his +1 dagger, trying to not him out. The wizards turn. I makes another save to break free of the curse. Fails. Looks at the artificer and says(out of character) sorry. He casts Living Bomb once more. The artificer had 1 hp. I asked him what was the last thing he says, thinks, hears, or feels. The quick version. He says the the wizard, “Find peace, friend.” And is turned into red mess.
The wizard doesn’t know it, but he was consecuted by the Luxon. In his past life he was the chosen spouse of Vesh, the Bloody Siren. (Like Brother Kash from CR campaign 1) Time stops momentarily as the artificer is exploding. The wizard sees the silhouette of Vesh dancing in the blood fountain that was once the artificer.
All in all a very fun session. The artificer thought it was a hell of a way to go and is excited about his new character.