I had never heard of Hubli until the moment when it was announced as the location for my job posting
Now Long story very short, I have got a job with posting given in Hubli. But due to the role and nature of work and due to various other influences I have taken decision to NOT go for this job.
And for which now I regret because I might have not conducted enough research and possibly might have made a mistake because taking this job would have been a right call when compared to other job offers I had in hand.
Anyways now, once you are in regret you tend to engage in counterfactual thinking and think about "What if" life could have been if you had that took that particular decision or choice in your life. The same is going on for me right now.
Now thinking about it, I was wondering what it have would been like if I had decided to come to Hubli. I personally never went to another city for living there. If I had decided to come to Hubli.. this would have been the first city where I would have lived independently.
Now I would have...

• I would have definitely asked for so much guidance in this sub. I would have definitely asked best places to stay in Hubli as a bachelor.
• Someone recently posted want to meet people as he is on some remote job in Hubli. I would have definitely would have messaged to meet him lol.
• I guess I would have posted in this sub about wanting to socialize and meet with you people in Hubli :P
• I saw someone suggesting in some comments to come to "Vidya Nagar" as there are more PG's in that location. Who knows ? I might have stayed in Vidya Nagar of Hubli. And it would have become a home for me.
• I heard that there is a mall in Hubli and saw some videos. Would that mall would have become my go to place for most weekends ?
• Who knows the people I missed to meet because I was never coming to Hubli ?
• Who knows If I missed a chance of meeting a new friend on the basis of probability, and now because I never came to hubli I never met that person and never crossed my paths with them.

So yeah was just wondering about what would life could have been if I had made a different choice. I am sorry if I have wasted your time. But I just wanted to share how I was feeling and somehow this felt like a right place to do and I don't know why 😂
Anyway I have got some questions for you guys :

1. What did I miss by not coming to Hubli ?
2. If I did come, do you think I could have survived in Hubli ? I don't know any kannada and it is/would have been literally my first time moving out.

Okay so I'm only a fourteen year old girl, and I looked up all of my state laws and whatnot, so the only way for me to move away with my grandparents would be with parents consent, and my parents wont allow me to get a job so I can't save up money and run away. But anyway, here's my problems.
I would hope thinking about killing your parents when you’re angry is not normal, but sometimes it happens for me. So let’s start with my dad. My dad thinks that he’s the most funny fucking person in the entire world. His “humor” is either calling me fat, calling my mom fat, or saying some stupid obnoxious thing to some of his friends who are women. I’ve said a few times that I hate how I look and my parents brush it off and say, “you shouldn’t”. My dad thinks that he’s also smart, although he gets all of his knowledge from facebook and the only diploma he has is from elementary school. Oh and he loves using my embarrassing stories to get laughs from people at family functions because what better way to grow a bond with your daughter than to embarrass her in front of people? I go to a private school so my classes are slightly more challenging that public school so I struggle. My grades aren't terrible, but one of my grades is. The rest of them are 80's and above, but according to my dad, "my grades are in the fucking toilet". Even though I've asked for a tutor multiple times, it's my fault.
My mom is slightly different but just as equally annoying. She believes my phone is the issue when it's literally my lifeline. I don't have that many friends because I have pretty bad social anxiety and being a teenager now is all hookups and drinking. They also don't understand that to fit in now, you need to dress a certain way and have social media. I don't even like drinking so I would never do anything terrible but my parents wont even let me have tik tok, which eight year olds have. Their reasoning is that "it's a chinese spy app". My mom and dad make fun of the clothes I wear, the music I listen to, and pick on basically everything I do. My mother threatens to punish me because I don't have any friends and the past few months have been awful for me because my best friend basically dropped me. I made new friends at school this year but they dropped me too and spread a rumor about me. My parents send me to a school I hate and honestly I just hate everything about my life. My mental health is literally dead and I feel like moving in with my grandparents in florida is the only way for me to be happy. The sun, a fresh start, people who won't antagonize me everyday. Don't even get me started on my spoiled little brother. They're awful and I seriously don't know what to do. They curse at me constantly and belittle me and I really hate it here. Please help.

Hello! I'm 26 and I just finished my bachelor's degree. It took me a really long time because I moved to another country to get it and over the years I got really depressed, then corona happened and everything. Now that I finished my bachelor's I finally feel the strength and motivation to start working towards a career. However there are barely any positions available and especially junior positions (well, i suppose there's never a lot of them but still). There are a bunch of agencies and a local design community though, but I didn't have an internship while I was at the university because I was depressed and demotivated. Now I feel like my time is running out... Anyway, I really want to start writing to local designers and agencies even if they're not hiring and ask for internships or at least some work. I really don't care what kind of work because I really need experience and at some point I want to become an art director. Btw I'm also good at illustration and I have an art background. The biggest problem is my lack of actual experience and connections. However, I do believe that I have potential to be a good designer. I'm hoping that somehow by being super motivated and eager to work I could find some jobs? What do you think. I really need some advice because I feel kind of scared. :) There are like 50 agencies where I'm at and my plan is to start making cold calls/emails. Do you think it is worth it writing cold emails or should I go all the way and actually show up at those agencies? I'm not very confident but I really just want to do something. Need advice pls. Thanks!

I'm in my 20s, manager is 60s, guy who was attacking me looked to be like 35ish. Protecting myself and my coworkers is more important than if I lost this job. This guy came in saying our gas pumps(gas station job) took his money, my coworker looked it on her register it did not take his money she showed him The reciept where he pumped $43 dollars and gave it to him. He demanded money even tho he used his card and pumped gas she told him no we can't do that, he threw stuff at her then he threw this can of sprite at my head it broke my glasses (manager refuses to pay even tho i did nothing to break them) and gave me a black eye. After that i pulledy taser out of my bag and tased this crazy customer before he could hurt me again. My manager called the cops and said "all forms of self defense are illegal" and that since i got hurt i'm not entitled to workers comp since i only do 30 hours a week. Is this true???
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Been at this job for 4 months. Have had customers like this non stop as to why i bought a taser for protection since manager does not care, cop even told him im allowed to stay safe and i did the taser bc i was getting attacked and had no other way

Hey everyone, I’ve been meaning to post this for a while now but I didn’t really know what to say and I wanted to spend some time educating myself on the field before I asked any dumb questions (even though I probably will still ask dumb questions, so call me out if I do!)
I am young, not of the age to drink, and I finished a 2 year degree, In my lessons I learned about automation but mainly focused on becoming a technician troubleshooting industrial sites. There was a job posting that I felt somewhat qualified for, it was a absolute dream job to be a controls engineer and somehow I got it. I’m blessed beyond words, I’ve never had a company actually show interest to me and I feel like I owe them a ton for it. Most if not all of my coworkers are ME or EEs, with bachelors degrees and here I am with a associates in what’s supposed to be troubleshooting stuff. When I got hired I kinda assumed controls engineer would mean I was kind of a controls technician, but after asking and learning the company completely separates the two and That I’m not really expected to do a technicians work (wiring, troubleshooting, etc) but they said there are rare occasions where I’ll be doing that. I have knowledge in slick 500, and rslogix 5000, but I must admit it’s not fantastic, and they know that I let them know in each interview but they are fine with that.
My questions are, how can I not mess this up? It’s a dream job but I feel sort of like a fraud, everyone else is far more qualified than me, how can I enhance my abilities and knowledge to provide the value I should to the company that’s given me this chance? I know 90% of what the job requires but do any seasoned workers in the controls field have any tips for me? What are some other duties that aren’t really discussed so I can spend time learning them? Thank you all so much, any tips would be greatly appreciated, I feel like I owe this company so much and I just want to be the best worker I can be for them.

Our apartment's office is staffed by two people, a manager and an assistant. We have lived here for 9 years, and found that staff changed a couple years ago when the new manager answered. I was a bit traumatized by my first experience with them, and didn't call again for several months until my dishwasher broke.
I spoke with the new assistant, who told me they would put in a ticket. When I asked how long it might be, she said "I don't know, but it's not an emergency."
I called every few weeks, and it was always the same. There was never any apology, and she would rush me off the phone, interrupting me to make the point that there was nothing else to say. It was very impersonal. I get that she's not personally responsible for the solution, but you can still have a personal touch. The dishwasher took four months.
Then my air conditioner broke. I work from home, and was becoming hot and nauseous in the afternoon. The assistant said, "I don't know how long it will be, but it's not an emergency." I ended up fixing it myself.
Last month, I notice I hadn't been charged rent a couple days after. I go to the website and try to make a payment, and it fails. I try a couple more cards before I realize it's their payment processor. I wrote them an email letting them know I would deliver payment to them immediately, and to not charge me a late fee since it was an issue on their end. They replied that they would not, and that they had fixed the issue.
A week later, there's a note in my door. It's a statement that I owe the fee. I called the office and got the assistant.
"Okay, did you pay your rent late?"
"I really don't understand why after a BACK AND FORTH EMAIL EXCHANGE with your office about this I would receive a notice, you should already know what's going on."
"Sir, stop yelling. We'll take care of it."
"I was told that in the first place! I can't count on you all to take care of anything around here!"
"Sir stop yelling or I'm going to hang up."
"I'm not yelling BUT BY ALL MEANS FEEL FREE."
I hung up. You know, I did feel bad. I figured that she must not have been the one that read the email. I wrote an apology email shortly after, explaining why I was upset, and the issues I'd been having.
The next day, I had a notice in my door that I had 30 days to move out. It seemed like a very heavy handed response. I didn't yell. I mean, I did escalate my tone. I did use emphasis. I didn't cuss, I didn't personally attack her. I was frustrated. Was I wrong to show my frustration?
A month later, I was charged those late fees. I came into the office and the manager walked out. I told her I don't understand why I have to have this much trouble over it, all the way to getting thrown out. She says it's because of how I talked to them. I tell her they've been rude ever since they started working there. She says they haven't been, they're just doing their jobs.
Are they just doing their jobs? AITA?

One of the things on this sub that has piqued my curiosity was how scant weeks ago, manufactured outrage around minor costs, ads, and bugs on Christian’s objectively stellar app provoked continuous hate for months. It was poisonous, unrelenting, and smacked so strongly of a troll campaign that I made multiple comments calling it out - especially how it disincentivized Christian from continuing to maintain the app. One of my favorite comments was that, “You(I) disgust me,” for supporting Christian’s character at that moment. Honestly, the about face in the community from it has been jarring.
Can we please acknowledge that there is a very distinct possibility the poor man was being harassed by likely Reddit trolls for the sake of making his life miserable? So many of those complaint posts did NOT post actionable intel for Christian, despite his directly engaging with some of those users. In retrospect, it echoed some of the goals Reddit had - discouraging subscriptions, made supporting himself seem exploitative, and made a largely underappreciated job ever more so. It also poisoned the community the man loved against him. That relationship is so clearly something he cherished, yet the good will evaporated quickly as people hysterically displaced their pathos from elsewhere in their lives towards an objective pillar of the Reddit community. Holy shit, people, some of you were so contemptuous of him that I was tempted to report people for verbal abuse.
Now that we finally have demonstrable, irrefutable evidence of Reddit’s fuckery and amorality in Christian’s calls and so much else, can we please talk about the possible harassment the poor fucking guy went through, likely employed or encouraged by Reddit itself, to drive him from developing the app?
Further, did other third party app communities experience similar trolling?

I'm a 15yo guy who lives in disgusting conditions (I'm talking trash everywhere and dishes very rarely washed). For the past 4 years, it's all been going downhill. It was fine when we moved in, but overtime my parents just didn't clean, I had to do it. When I did, no one cares so I just stopped.
The main problem is however, my parents can't stand each other because of financial problems. My mom is unemployed because she had issues with her forearms and her stomach and my dad has a job. But he gives us nothing. He's an intense alcoholic and it's rare seeing him home. When he is home, he's drunk to the point where I'm scared. He oftentimes falls and hits his head. He spends a ridiculous amount of money on alcohol, refuses to give his family any of the money he gets every month and then complains how we do nothing in the home. It's impossible to love like this, I go to sleep everyday hearing their arguments over and over, I can't sleep because of it. It's horribly frustrating as I have no one who I can tell this. So my mom has tried everything she can to get anything for food for me and my sister. It's getting harder and harder.
To the point where she has to take his credit card to get even anything for food. Sadly I'm involved as I have to take the card and go get the money. Well it escalated to the point where he changed the code on it and it got blocked. I got home as soon as I could and already hear the argument about where his card is and for my mom to give it back. Well now I'm sitting here writing this and waiting until he finds out that he can't use the card. The situation sort of calmed down and now I'm sitting here writing this. My mom is planning to call the social services, but I can't be sure how long it's going to be. This family is going to hell and I have no one to be with. My mom doesn't have a stable income so she can't care for us, and no one wants to be with my father which only cares about alcohol.
If only I could have more time. I can get a job when I'm 16, have a stable income and at least provide something to the family. However I can't be sure whether 2 months is enough time.
And please don't go into the comments immediately telling me to call the police. If they see the conditions I have to live in, They'll call the social services immediately, and I'll be screwed. I have to decide which parent I have to live with, but neither of them can provide. Nothing is a good option and I'm scared.
TLDR: My family is horribly unstable and without money and I don't have enough time to do something about it.

So I'm currently in a call center for only a few month now. Took the job cuz I was desperate to be hired being a fresh college grad. I was not placed on a line of business I wanted but I'm performing quite well though the pay is low, and the customers are........ Wonderful to talk to I guess.
I don't really know how to resign or even know if I could resign cuz I'm still under probation and not regularized yet.
I now got an offer on a career I want with 2.5x the pay but I don't know how to leave my current job the right way and to transfer to the new one.
Since I'm not regularized yet, I also can't file leaves yet.
Do I just walk out? Who do I talk to in my call center job about this? Trainer, Team manager, or HR? How do I leave the right way? 😅
Do I just walk out and start on with the new company waiting for me?

Had an amazing interview May 5th. It was a 3 panel interview for 1 hour and I absolutely nailed it. They even told me that the decision takes about 3 weeks so be patient. 10 mins after the interview, I got an email from the recruiter asking when is a good time to call. We spoke and she listed all the benefits and perks with the job and asked about salary expectations. My only mistake was giving a number too low. I asked for 74k but the min for the job is probably (not sure but Glassdoor says) 85k. Anyway she says she will reach out when the hiring team comes to a decision.
3 weeks pass and there is no email or phone call or any update in that time. I think May 24th I call the recruiter and no answer. I follow it up with an email to ask for an update and have yet to hear back. I check workday and my application status is “in process”. I understand a slow decision making process but what’s with the ignoring for weeks?

What job title would you call someone who
Works with customers pre sale about their networking needs
Works with customers on installing their network determined by pre sales
Consults with customers on their network
Troubleshoots customers networks
Configures networking equipment
Setup and configure customer VPN
VPN accounts and user management
Helps tier 1-2 people on network troubleshooting
Not sure if this matters but it’s all Cisco equipment

I have no reason to be such an awkward person, I have a good family and many friends, or I did.
After graduation I moved away and lived alone for 8 months. I was a party kid in highschool, since 15 Ive been regularly smoking pot and drinking. When I first lived alone I stopped smoking and started drinking more. Nowadays, and since maybe February, I drink all day.
If im unemployed I wake up, drink, and watch Youtube or listen to music all day. I rarely blackout, Im just content to get less and less present all day. If I have a job I drink the night or morning before and right after, I act pathetic and quiet around almost anyone in a public setting. I shake and twitch constantly, I have the darkest eyebags you have ever seen.
I had a lot of insomnia when I lived alone, thats approved as has my diet since coming back to my hometown. My people skills have improved a bit as well and people think im funny at my new job but I’m calling in more and more. My manager is my high school friend and he has been very supportive, I’ve lied and said I have some sort of blood problem and hes bought it but I was supposed to work today and im not going to because im drinking.
A few nights ago I heard voices all around me criticizing me and I could hear my friends cheering for me to be arrested and wanting to beat me up and calling me a pussy and all sorts of shit and I hid in my bed, drunk and terrified and delusional. I called my friend twice confused and slurring and asking where he was because I could hear him outside. (This is the friend whos also my boss.)
He was in bed both times and I have never heard a human sound as concerned about me as he sounded responding to my call. He asked if I was ok and seemed genuinely disturbed.
I am doubting my reality, I am scared that whatever front I have to convince people im not a massive drunk is cracking.
I used to like rum, now I exclusively drink high ABV vodka and I go to the liquor store almost everyday. I get sick if I manage to not drink for a day. I just nurse on vodka all fucking day.
Im scared I have wetbrain, Im scared that im going to hear voices again, im scared that my friends will give up on me because I just get more cold, awkward, and rigid every single day.
So thats off my chest i guess lol idk what im asking for.

Hello!
All of my friends:

• 1 game mains and only play that one game
• Are part of discord servers with 100 people where half the people you've never met and the other half wouldn't notice if you ever returned
• Play a game for a day then a new one the next (can't "complete" a game)
• Start a game then disappear for 3 weeks

My Style:

• I play from around 5PM CST to about 1AM CST most days + weekends. I have a family so I don't game every day but most.
• I play a wide variety of games. So far this year:
  • World of Tanks
  • Ark
  • Escape from Tarkov
  • Call of Duty Cold War Zombies
  • The Forest
  • Total War (Warhammer, Rome, etc)
  • The Way of the Hunter
  • War Thunder
  • Arma Antistasi
• Games I'm not into (maybe you can convince me otherwise):
  • League of Legends
  • Super big, grindy MMOs (WoW, Black Desert, Eve)
  • Arcady stuff with no progression (PubG, Overwatch, Apex, Fortnite etc)
• I'm a competitive style player, I like to win, and I like to get a sense of accomplishment. But I'm not a sweat lord who yells at you because we lost

Me:

• I have a family, a business, and a job.
• I like to hunt, hike and fish
• Looking for someone I'll be actual friends with and not just someone I played a game with one time until we moved to different games. My best friend I meet playing games 8 years ago and we just got back from a vegas trip with our wives. Not saying we need to get to that level haha, just that I'm looking for something different than we beat the forest together and then peaced out.
• I'm playing Call of Duty Zombies right now, I kinda want to beat the story. Also been having the itch to beat the Ark story before Ark 2 comes out. I just tried to play the forest but my friend kinda flaked before we completed the last bit. I'm open to other games of course too.

You:

• Are into the same types of games (or some of the same) I am
• Are not 19-years old living with their parent's, whose primary hobby is playing games, getting high (idc if you smoke), and partying. (You live your life, no judgment from me, we just won't have a lot in common to talk about is all).
• Like to play a variety of games.
• Like to reach end game of games where it makes sense (Ark, Call of Duty Zombies, The Forest), and don't mind putting games down that don't have one after a while (Tarkov, World of Tanks, match-based stuff).
• Don't need to agree on everything with your friends. They can have different political, social, etc type views and it's cool. You can even learn something from them and teach something in return.
• Play at least a few days a week. I have a life to but if you only play 2 hours a week it's hard to get very far into anything.
• Have some kind of hobby outside of computers.
• Don't want me to join a discord server with you 50 best friends. But I'm cool with hanging out with a couple of your friends and hope you are cool hanging out with a couple of friends of mine. People who will get to know you/I. Just not looking to join the mega community that people will forget my name 2 hours after I joined.

I'll be on most of today

So after trying to self teach myself software development for 3 years I kinda realized that I really miss the school setting, and wanna improve my social skills as well. I also more or less know what short and long term goals I want to achieve with college and I wanted to find some people who are more knowledgeable to let me know if they think this is a good idea and maybe get some advice around that.
My short term goals(1-2 Years): Work a part time job while studying for a transfer associates degree in computer science at the local community college, joining the robotics club and maybe studying a foreign language.
My long term goals(3-10 Years): Graduate with a four year degree in Computer science, taking on various internships preferably ones in the the robotics field hoping it leads to a job at my dream company Tesla or any leader in the robotic/AI field.
A little more context about myself I'm 20 years old currently and I graduated high school when I was 17 in 2020 I was really confused about everything because of Corona and got lots of conflicting advice about college in the software field many people call college a scam and that you can learn everything online, and I believed them although what they said isn't necessarily wrong, it doesn't apply to everyone and that's me. I have so much trouble self teaching, no guidance, no connections, and always constantly feeling like I'm missing something.
The big question: I wanted to ask everyone in college if I am starting too late as a 20 year old going on 21 is this a good time to go back to school? I'm not looking at the degree as my ticket to a job I'm using the school to get an education around engineering and science something that's really interested me over the years, but I don't want to set myself back and pay off massive debts, so I thought about a option that might be best for me which is the Associates transfer degree located at my community college, I live in Texas so I wanted to just start with lonestar college for 2 years and then transfer to Texas A&M to finish the bachelor's which leads me to my last and final question to you all.
My dream is to obviously get hired at a big company ones that are on the edge of cutting technology my number one pick is Tesla, but other companies in robotics and AI I would not mind working as well, I don't expect to get hired right out of college, but this is just my magnum opus, so my question is if I get my degree from Texas A&M does that reduce my chances over someone who went to an ivy league school because A&M is a state school and it would save me money doing this than to go into insane debt trying to get into an ivy league or private school.
Thank you guys for reading this if you did I appreciate any advice I get from you guys.

So after trying to self teach myself software development for 3 years I kinda realized that I really miss the school setting, and wanna improve my social skills as well. I also more or less know what short and long term goals I want to achieve with college and I wanted to find some people who are more knowledgeable to let me know if they think this is a good idea and maybe get some advice around that.
My short term goals(1-2 Years): Work a part time job while studying for a transfer associates degree in computer science at the local community college, joining the robotics club and maybe studying a foreign language.
My long term goals(3-10 Years): Graduate with a four year degree in Computer science, taking on various internships preferably ones in the the robotics field hoping it leads to a job at my dream company Tesla or any leader in the robotic/AI field.
A little more context about myself I'm 20 years old currently and I graduated high school when I was 17 in 2020 I was really confused about everything because of Corona and got lots of conflicting advice about college in the software field many people call college a scam and that you can learn everything online, and I believed them although what they said isn't necessarily wrong, it doesn't apply to everyone and that's me. I have so much trouble self teaching, no guidance, no connections, and always constantly feeling like I'm missing something.
The big question: I wanted to ask everyone in college if I am starting too late as a 20 year old going on 21 is this a good time to go back to school? I'm not looking at the degree as my ticket to a job I'm using the school to get an education around engineering and science something that's really interested me over the years, but I don't want to set myself back and pay off massive debts, so I thought about a option that might be best for me which is the Associates transfer degree located at my community college, I live in Texas so I wanted to just start with lonestar college for 2 years and then transfer to Texas A&M to finish the bachelor's which leads me to my last and final question to you all.
My dream is to obviously get hired at a big company ones that are on the edge of cutting technology my number one pick is Tesla, but other companies in robotics and AI I would not mind working as well, I don't expect to get hired right out of college, but this is just my magnum opus, so my question is if I get my degree from Texas A&M does that reduce my chances over someone who went to an ivy league school because A&M is a state school and it would save me money doing this than to go into insane debt trying to get into an ivy league or private school.
Thank you guys for reading this if you did I appreciate any advice I get from you guys.

Okay long post, but apparently nausea can be a part of IBS, and also caused by anxiety. The doctors here in Finland refuse to give me any anti-nausea meds or even examine me in any way because they say it's just normal anxiety and reflux nausea. The only OTC med is Postafen for car sickness and it does not work. Lately, for the past ~5 MONTHS, I have had debilitating nausea on and off nearly every day. I have lost around 5+ kg (10ish pounds or more) though it's hard to tell exactly how much with how my weight naturally fluctuates. In any case, I have lost weight simply because I have not been able to eat much anything for the past 3 months or so.
Sometimes there are better days or even a week where the nausea is minimal and I can eat normally and sleep in my own bed again, but the room is too cramped to hold a bucket in case I throw up at night, so I have lived on the couch for most of this time. I have not thrown up even once, but the fear of throwing up on my bed and everything around it is too bad for me and also the toilet is closer to the living room.
Thing is, I had a stomach flu (likely noro, got it from a family member) in late March. Ever since, I have felt worse than I usually do. I am always physically somehow unable to throw up even though I have chronic reflux and daily regurgitation. I was just in pain and had bad shits during the week of stomach flu.
The nausea and heartburn have gotten worse by tenfold this past week and I suspect I might have gastroparesis on top of reflux and IBS. Stomach valve malfunctions run in the family. The doctors here however just tell me to take Somac (pantopratzole, doesn't help me even on the long run) and straight up REFUSE to examine me in any way or give me a referral to a much needed gastroscopy because I am "young and healthy" (21) and "haven't thrown up". I can't afford a private doctor, even a gastroscopy or ultrasound is 300-400 euros (about the same in USD with current rates) and I have less than that to my name for the entire month after bills etc. Public healthcare stuff is pretty much free with a citizenship health insurance but they jusy don't care about people before it's too late.
I take Rennie and Somac daily (Rennie when needed, Somac before bed) for my heartburn, but these past few days it has been so bad that it has made me cough and almost lose my voice several times. I'm going to try to call the doctors on Monday again and insist on a referral to a gastroscopy, I have had reflux for years and it's about time they check what's going on with my esophageal lining. If they even listen to me.
Anyone have any input? I am desperate at this point. I do voice work and hope to turn it into a job at some point, and the potential of reflux-caused vocal cord damage scares me.

I followed up on a job interview I had two weeks prior and they told me they were going to offer me the position, however could not get in contact with me (I did not receive phone calls or emails). I confirmed my number and email, and they said they would relay the message that I was still interested to someone else (i’m guessing the hiring manager) and I should hear back in a few days. That was on Monday, it is now Saturday. Do I call to follow up again?

I've developed repetitive stress injury in my hands wrists and elbows due to overuse on the computer. It was inevitable, but it was definitely coding that accelerated the issue. I'm kind of scared to move forward with coding now, but really need it for my career. Not being able to do my job due to a physical limitation is a new level of hopelessness that I didn't expect to experience at this age. I'm going to be getting the voice dictation software called Dragon soon. I'm looking forward to that, but still not sure how this will play a role in my ability to code.
Does anyone have experience with this issue? It doesn't even need to be voice dictation advice, honestly any sort of workaround for coding effectively without adversely impacting the hands would be so helpful to me.

As the sub grows and more new people find us, inevitably many of those new people will be so new to the subject, that they’re just now discovering things that some others may have discovered a long time ago. But, all of us were new once, to questioning what had occurred.
Whilst some comments may be in bad faith, some are not. Sometimes people really just have the beginning of an awareness that at the bottom of every rotten therapist is an even more rotten system that enables them. To some degree this is not even about therapy, it is the story of every political party and NGO organization, every workplace, every family and just any group dynamic will have a politics of power and influence. The dominant and the dominated.
Having a public subreddit is like standing on a street corner with signs discussing your issue while various passerby walk by. Some passerby may be like “wow, this is great and I was looking for this without even knowing” and other passerby may be like “hey, you’re wrong!!!” and even pick a fight. Does this mean you no longer fit in with the people standing at the corner with you? No, it means there was a passerby that wasn’t interested in your message. That’s kind of like comments on a very specialized subject such as therapy abuse. For a person to say “oh, I made an OP and I got an unsupportive comment”. There are 8 thousand people on the sub. Report it with a note, reply to it (respectfully, even just to say “I don’t agree” or “I don’t agree because xyz”, or ignore it. 3 choices are always available).
I’m not interested in making the sub private. I’m interested in as many people finding this community and these discussions as possible. There are some growing pains with any subreddit or IRL organization and I do care about the feedback and will implement some and ask for more soon. That being said, and I know a lot of people will not want to hear this, at some point in your trauma recovery you DO need to try to speak up and stand up for yourself when the occasion calls for it. For almost all of my childhood and teens I was very freeze and fawn type and then in my late 20s and early 30s I developed more of a fight response. The subreddit is a place where genuinely bullying and trolling will be removed by the mod, and stay removed. But you have to help take action to make that happen! And you might as well practice standing up for yourself in a way that is direct brief but clear “I don’t agree and I’m not going to respond further”. The “reactivity” is understandable but it is exactly what a genuine bully or a troll wants. I’ve had to learn a lot about bullying because as a former narcissistic family scapegoat all I knew was being bullied. And I grew up to have self harm problems and low self esteem/depression and recurrent issues with workplace bullying and other group dynamics.
While there are bound to be some mistakes and learning in a real life environment (it takes skill and practice to stand down a bully) you HAVE to move past the rejection sensitivity and tendency to be more easily discouraged, which are direct results of trauma. You also have to learn what you’re doing that is waving a red flag in front of a bull of opportunistic garden variety bullies like in workplaces, churches and etc. I’m talking about assholes, not true pathological narcissists and psychopaths who also wield power. In that case, no contact and leave. Anyways, I know I will not have a popular message saying this last bit but don’t let a HANDFUL of people you don’t resonate with drive you out of ANYWHERE that you’d like to stay. Fight them by standing up for yourself!
I had a good reputation at my former workplace that when I stood down a bully in a public place then followed up by reporting them formally through the company. She was written up and told to never do that again. I also rallied so many other people to submit comments about what they’d done to them too, that there was so much evidence that we won! They can beat you alone but not in a group. Also, once a bully locks target on you my life experience has told me if you can’t flee you need to FIGHT. Play “nice” and ignore it doesn’t work. You need to play politics and learn to increase your strategy and chances (not a guarantee) of winning against bullies.
And counteract bullying by speaking up, standing up and sticking around regardless of triggers, IF you want to. It DOESN’T mean you can change the other persons mind or behavior or guarantee that you keep your job, the relationship etc but it DOES feel better than just taking it without a STRATEGIC fight. Speaking from personal experience, therapy abuse conditioned me to just “take” bullying and abuse and not fight it but “cope with it”. Changing that has been freeing.

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A few days after Kazue and Mordecai finished the fifth floor they had a set of visitors from Riverbridge which included a couple of surprises. One of those surprises was the inclusion of Brongrim and Nainvil with the set of guards coming in for training. The dwarf and half-orc had managed to negotiate a supervised parole where they worked for the city guards, and part of that duty was going to include training at the dungeon.
The other surprise was a visit from their sister-in-law, Hainako. Moriko’s little sister had been sent with a few sets of medicines for Kazue to try and report back on efficacy. Once satchel and note were delivered she hung out with them in the war room so she could watch the training group move through the dungeon.
The group had two recruits with only a basic level of training, which bogged down the team a bit. Mordecai sent out instructions to keep the challenge down to a minimum, but even so they only barely managed to scrape through the fourth floor and it was clear that they weren’t getting through the fifth floor. Mordecai was glad that they’d shown the good sense to call it off there, he’d have considered intervening if they’d tried to drag the newbies through the fifth floor, the chances of an accidental death were too high.
One side benefit of this particular group coming through was that Mordecai finally got to see what an expert gunner looked like. Brongrim’s fighting style was a skirmishing type that mixed pistol and short sword, and it allowed him to cover his reloading with attacks from his blade. It only worked because he also had his waxed-paper bullets readied in specialized bandoleers. You had to have everything set up for it, it wasn’t the sort of thing you could do on the fly and Mordecai could see where you had to dedicatedly practice certain movement combinations to bring gun and bandoleer into the right alignment without interfering with the rest of your movements. Still, the biggest flaw he could see in guns was the need to reload each shot that way, not that crossbows were any better really. Bows and slings both had much more fluid actions to ready the next piece of ammunition, but they also took more time to master, and neither could be used with only one hand.
Nainvil’s technique was a more straightforward style that focused on a two-handed grip for power, but with a light enough sword that he could free a hand for other uses and still be able to swing. That wasn’t a new variant for Mordecai, but all the styles and techniques of their visitors were being studied by the laganthros. Even if Mordecai knew most of them, there was no good way for him to try and teach every possible style, so he kept to the basics and let them practice and train to find their preferences. Though some of the works Moriko was bringing back included older copies of technique scrolls, maybe he should encourage Betty to study those and start her own school for laganthros.
They were the mundane type, with no learning enchantments or anything, but for the most part he preferred those anyway. Learning what you are actually doing was usually better than just having a combo or technique implanted in your head.
But that was for much later as the wagons were going much slower than Moriko on her own. For now, he made arrangements for everyone to have someplace to sleep for the night, including a private room for Brongrim and Nainvil. No special prizes however, since the group didn’t clear the dungeon. Getting bonuses for clearing everything was going to get harder as they grew, and Mordecai was fine with that. Technically it wasn’t required, he just liked doing it, but it also wasn’t something he wanted to be dealing with constantly.
Now he could turn his attention to something else that Hainako had brought with her. It was a commission and payment for a set of equipment, with some interesting measurements for the armor and cloak. Traxalim was who had sent the commission with her, but according to the note he was relaying the commission from someone else. The work wasn’t particularly hard, but some of the materials were unusual, and the payment included samples of them: Wyvern hide for the armor, Worg fur for the cloak.
The request also wanted a pair of daggers long enough he’d almost call them short swords, except that the specifications for the armor were for someone rather tall and lanky. The instant return enchantments for the daggers were a fairly common design so it was no trouble adding those to each dagger as well.
On top of that was a full gear set complete with an Expanded backpack. It had just about everything one could want for exploring the world and surviving in a range of environments. It was like baby’s-first-adventuring-kit, except most folk couldn’t afford this level of gear when they first stepped into the world of explorers and mercenaries.
It wasn’t enough to keep someone incompetent alive, but it would make the job easier for someone new at it. And all the major components had a rather interesting insignia attached or inscribed in some way: A wolf with three horns. He had no idea what that meant.
But it didn’t matter, the dungeon had gotten some new materials to add to their repertoire, some more raw materials for the laganthros to work with, and a few new small animals that had been easy to carry in a cage this far. It was a fair trade. By the time the group was awake the next morning the dungeon’s part of that trade was complete. And when they had left, it was time to begin on the sixth floor. “Are you ready love?” He asked Kazue.
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This was a bigger section to do all at once than she’d done before, but after talking it over with her husband Kazue rather liked the idea. They’d gone straight down so far, each floor looping back under the floor above it, but now that they were down this deep there was no reason to not also expand horizontally. The end of the fifth floor was approximately under the end of the first floor, this left them ‘pointing’ back under the mountain. So this time when she gathered energy to push their home complex down, she also pushed ‘out’.
There were a couple of design changes as well. Looping back and forth had made it simplest to bring the two paths back to each other at the end of each floor, and they’d used the stairwells down to keep them isolated. But there was no simple stairway between the fifth and the sixth this time. While the last door for each side could still either lead forward or reroute back up to the start of the sewer path, the forward paths merged into a meandering and slowly widening tunnel.
The tunnel opened up onto a wide, well-lit cavern that was almost meadow-like, excepting only that the ground cover was of a similar makeup to fungal floor five. At the far end of the meadow was a basin that would become a vast lake once filled, and at the shores of this lake-to-be was a large village once more occupied by laganthros. Only this time it was set to be a more well-rounded village, with a clear mix of potential combatants and noncombatants. A well-trod path lead toward this village, complete with a sign saying “Lapin Lake Village”.
At the other end of the basin that was slowly filling with water the lake was split by a large peninsula that ended at the far wall. This signaled the divergence of the paths again, with two underground rivers splitting off from either side of the peninsula. This entire setup meant that at this stage people could decide to switch paths, though they would be obligated by the rules of the new path that they chose.
This did run some risk that someone might try and trick their way this far by taking the non-combat route to conserve their resources before switching, but they would still need to be well-armed to tackle further combat so it seemed unlikely that she or Mordecai would be unable to spot them and call them out on it. And they did intend to offer it up as an option for those who had cleared the fifth floor of the combat route previously and that were in good favor with the dungeon.
The village itself was the first challenge in progressing, as the laganthros were going to be building docks and boats, and the boats could be either sold or rented with a guide who would help pilot them. For the absolute cheapskates, they could even do a short rental to get them to the peninsula, where there were plenty of both normal and mushroom trees to potentially harvest and make their own rafts or boats from.
This was also an optional challenge and reward as some of the vegetation and fungi here were rare or valuable, if you knew how to identify and harvest it.
As for the rest, well, for the moment they had a pair of fairly simple rivers that led to another lake, though this one just had a sandy shore to pull up onto. Filling the floor out was a future endeavor, but the layout was ready. And now their home was even further under the mountain itself.
Kazue had been careful with this by using a trick Mordecai showed her, probing ahead with their mana as she sought to claim more territory. Running into worked stone or large caverns would have felt different and let her pull back before she fully claimed that area. Even if they had a perfect map of the dwarven kingdom, and right now they had no map at all, there was always a chance that something else lived down here.
Well, actually, there had been plenty of that. But those were all simpler underground creatures, and she’d been able to invite them into her dungeon’s ecosystem or as inhabitants. Kazue surveyed her work and was quite pleased with herself. Mordecai approved as well, but she realized then that he’d been partially distracted while she worked on their next level. Before she could ask about what had taken up his attention, his mental voice became excited.
“Kazue! Take a look at this. Focus on the aura of any of your dire rabbits on the first floor. Look at the whole thing.” He seemed to be eagerly anticipating something, so she followed his instructions with curious confusion.
What he wanted her to see quickly became obvious. Some of their mana was flowing into all of their inhabitants, enough to leave her a little hollow feeling given how much they’d just spent, but it was having an interesting effect, one that was most dramatic in the simplest creatures. She could see energy sparkling along the pathways of their brains, the individual components compacting into more efficient forms, then multiplying and creating more complex pathways.
Their auras fluctuated in response to these changes, their very spirits being altered by this physical change until suddenly collapsing into a denser, stronger form of spiritual energy. Every single one of her wonderful creatures now had a spark of true sentience in them, complete with the rise of a soul! A quick check verified it even applied to the clockwork creatures in the library and the spiders on the fifth floor, though not the simpler, reactive vegetative fungi.
This was great! They’d always been able to communicate ideas and concepts to all their inhabitants, but this would allow deeper, language-based communication! Though closer examination revealed that the mental capacity upgrade only barely breached that level, it would in many ways be like talking to a not particularly bright child. On the other hand, the upgrade seemed to affect all but the smartest of her inhabitants to some extent. Which meant Horace and a small percentage of the laganthros.
Hmm. And Mordecai seemed pleased but not particularly surprised. Kazue’s thoughts focused on him with suspicion only to be met with amusement, so her avatar stirred from where they were cuddled on their bed and bit into his shoulder.
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