My entire life I have been described by family, friends, and co-workers as extremely paranoid about dates and times. I have shown up for events anywhere between 1 and 3 hours before the first person does, just because I'm scared I'll miss it. I showed up to work 30 minutes to an hour early to make sure I had no chance of missing a single day. I set calendar reminders in my phone for an event 30 minutes beforehand, 1 hour beforehand, 1 day beforehand, and 1 week beforehand. All different notifications for the same event. There could not possibly be a person more notified of the time of an event than I am.
I woke up today and got on my college's online school system. I took summer classes because I figured I would be on top of it the entire time. So far, I had been. Leading up to the first exam I had things turned in before the deadline every time. There was just one thing I forgot to do out of all of this, and that was setting a reminder for the first exam. When I woke up and checked the to-do list, there were several notifications sitting on it talking about the first exam, which was yesterday.
Fuck. For context, I missed this one day because the main assignments are due on Thursdays. I completed everything I needed to and wasn't aware of an exam coming up, so I just didn't check the assignment board. The exam wasn't posted yet, because it was going to be there on the day I had to do it. Instead, I spent the day hanging out with my 6 year old cousins because their mom called me and they wouldn't stop talking about me. I didn't think that there was an exam because I never scheduled it in my phone.
This is my first college class to have exams be worth 70% of the grade. Everything else up to this point has been assignments and other stuff, and now suddenly my grade is 24% instead of its prior 94%. 94 because I missed one problem which I couldn't figure out on a homework assignment. Now it's all meaningless because I missed one day. The syllabus says explicitly "THERE WILL BE NO MAKEUP EXAMS", so even with my email to the teacher I'm pretty much fucked.
Knowing now that I have to either drop the class or fail it, I checked my other scheduled classes and this one small fuck up is going to cost me an entire year. I have to drop Calc 2 and Physics 1, turning my full time Fall 2023 into a part time Fall 2023. All of that isn't even the worst part.
Now I know this is going to sound like a first-world problem, but my parents are kind enough to pay for my college in its entirety. I could not be more thankful for them. Unfortunately, Calc 1's full refund date JUST expired. I can still drop the class with a W on my transcript instead of an F, but that money's just gone now. Maybe I can just try paying them back for the dropped class and get them a full refund on the two I can't take now.
TL;DR: I missed the date for the first Calc exam in my college, dropping my grade to an amount I cannot recover from even with a perfect score on every future assignment. Now I am set back an entire year in college.

When is baby due?
Dec 6th, but she thinks she'll probably give birth 1st week of Nov.
Do you know what you're having?
Yes, they're planning on uploading the reveal next week.
Have doctors told you to not get pregnant & abstain from having kids?
No, they've never been told it's too dangerous. She is high risk due to the 2 blood clotting disorders, so they have extra steps they need to follow while she's pregnant. The health issues she had a couple of years ago were due to COVID, not related to pregnancy. Erin's health is their top priority.
Have you found a good doctor in Florida?
Finding a new doctor was their biggest concern when she found out she was pregnant. They found a great practice, Erin says it's one of the top 10 in the USA. They are very happy with the high risk specialist they've seen, who looked at her records & seemed surprised she was able to get pregnant again.
Why was this pregnancy a "surprise"? Why is this a "miracle baby"?
She only has a 1/3rd of her left ovary. Her hormones were "out of wack" for awhile after the surgeries & she a doctor that specializes in hormones to help balance them. They did an egg count & she has the equivalent of what a 48-50 year old woman would have & is considered pre-menopausal. They assumed that Finley would be their last & they got rid of all of their baby clothes/supplies when they moved to Florida. Kelly recently sent Erin about 15 maternity dresses, since she didn't have any.
Have you come up with a name for the baby?
Erin made a huge list of boy & girl names that are "the most unique" (Chad's words). They haven't picked an exact name, but will announce soon.
How are you feeling & what does life look like lately?
Erin does a much as she can, but she knows her body & limits. Chad helps out a lot. They say Brooklyn has become a 'little mother' and is asking to learn how to cook. Carson has also 'stepped up to the plate.' The kids all ask how they can help. Chad says Erin is a hero. Then they talk about Chad & Erin Co bullshit, idc enough to summarize that.

One of the things on this sub that has piqued my curiosity was how scant weeks ago, manufactured outrage around minor costs, ads, and bugs on Christian’s objectively stellar app provoked continuous hate for months. It was poisonous, unrelenting, and smacked so strongly of a troll campaign that I made multiple comments calling it out - especially how it disincentivized Christian from continuing to maintain the app. One of my favorite comments was that, “You(I) disgust me,” for supporting Christian’s character at that moment. Honestly, the about face in the community from it has been jarring.
Can we please acknowledge that there is a very distinct possibility the poor man was being harassed by likely Reddit trolls for the sake of making his life miserable? So many of those complaint posts did NOT post actionable intel for Christian, despite his directly engaging with some of those users. In retrospect, it echoed some of the goals Reddit had - discouraging subscriptions, made supporting himself seem exploitative, and made a largely underappreciated job ever more so. It also poisoned the community the man loved against him. That relationship is so clearly something he cherished, yet the good will evaporated quickly as people hysterically displaced their pathos from elsewhere in their lives towards an objective pillar of the Reddit community. Holy shit, people, some of you were so contemptuous of him that I was tempted to report people for verbal abuse.
Now that we finally have demonstrable, irrefutable evidence of Reddit’s fuckery and amorality in Christian’s calls and so much else, can we please talk about the possible harassment the poor fucking guy went through, likely employed or encouraged by Reddit itself, to drive him from developing the app?
Further, did other third party app communities experience similar trolling?

Hi, I’m in my early 30s. I’ve been offered a creative/arts residency in a city that’s decently far from where I live now (about a 6-hour drive). My gut is torn over whether to accept it or not. The terms of the residency would be: -they will provide a room rent-free in a house share with two other artists in my field doing the same residency. the house is equipped with a studio with equipment and software for what we do, plus a gym, kitchen and co-working space. -in exchange, they would ask that I quit any work I’m doing that’s not directly related to the creative field (i.e. take a leap and start making money only creatively) -I would be allowed to leave the city but they’d ask that I keep it to a minimum. I didn’t ask what the limit for leaving is but I asked if I could take trips home every 3-4 weeks for a potential planned medical thing and they said no I'm hesitant to accept because: 1) I’m in a long-term relationship (over two years). It’s my first every LTR and I feel like my BF and I are compatible in so many ways. My BF has said in no uncertain terms he will end the relationship if I accept the residency as he doesn’t want to do long-distance for this period of time. (It’s most of a year.) 2) If I were sure this would be a great career move, it would be a hard but easy decision for me to leave my BF. I love him, but I wouldn’t want to date someone who was standing in the way of my career over a temporary situation where we could still see each other sometimes. However, I’m not sure, and I’m worried about what will happen if I basically implode my life for this opportunity (quit a job I’m happy in, leave a relationship I’m mostly happy in, and lose my housing in the city I’m currently living in) and then the residency program turns out to be BAD. My biggest fears:

• LONG-TERM CAREER RISK: I was adrift for a lot of my 20s and my job history is very patchy. I got the job I have now by knowing someone and it’s honestly the first job I’ve worked where I truly feel like the company culture “gets” me and cares more about me as an individual than blood sucking me dry for their own profit. I like the people and the vibe, and it feels like there’s room for growth. I don’t know if I could get a job like this again.
• SHORT-TERM FINANCIAL RISK: If the program doesn't want me to do "regular" work, then I'd be taking a huge risk in assuming that I can make enough creatively to pay my other expenses. The program wouldn't pay for anything other than housing - not food/car insurance/gas/etc. I have made some money doing things like creative coaching, paid feedback, etc but I've made more like in the low hundreds a month and my monthly expenses without rent would be at least $1,000. I have a lot in savings but this could potentially deplete at least 1/3 of my emergency fund. Based on what I know about career prospects in my industry, it's highly unlikely that I would make back enough money to replace my lost professional income. Most people in the industry never make a profit from it
• POSSIBLY WORSE OPPORTUNITIES: I’m currently in the #1 city in the country, probably the world, for live performance in my creative field. I’ve worked my way up for the past few years to the point where I have my own thing I’m producing on a regular basis that’s starting to get a small but sure following. I’m getting the opportunity to perform once a week at a place that may start paying me eventually, possibly even within the next year or two. My BF pointed out that if I leave to go be in a more remote place for such a long time period I’ll lose the momentum I’ve built up in this city and potentially be putting myself in a worse situation.
• RED FLAG ON THE PROGRAM?: My BF says that his friend, who's further up than us, says the specific person running this program has a bad reputation for taking advantage of young people and acting like more of an authority than he is, and that he's generally seen as a laughingstock. I have to admit that offering rent only, and not paying for other necessities like food, but requiring participants to quit their non-artistic work for the program feels a bit like a red flag to me though I can't quite put my finger on why
• DRIVING: I have a car but I'm not a confident driver. Where I live now there’s ample public transportation. If I took the residency, I would need to drive frequently. I’ve visited the city it's in before and there’s a bad combination of aggressive drivers and poorly designed/confusing highways.

Reasons why I want to accept:
1) I'm from the city I live in now and have never really lived anywhere else for an extended period of time. This feels like a relatively risk-free way to try living in a new place, and frankly I'm getting tired of how competitive and expensive my city is. I feel like everyone is jumping over each other to get opportunities. I'm a little tired of live performance and have been interested for a while in putting more emphasis on creating digital stuff / social media. A program like this that's in a more remote place with less going on so I have room to sit alone and write would be perfect for this
2) They're offering a room where I could be alone and undisturbed which is out of my reach in my city. Rent has skyrocketed the past few years. I can afford my rent now but BF and I are sharing a one-room apartment, we both work remote most of the time, and it is AWFUL. Yes I could get a co-working space or there's solutions like putting up barriers but I really just want to be able to roll out of bed and journal for an hour without anyone saying anything to me. I'm introverted and my social battery is constantly being drained in this living situation. Rent has gotten so bad that even if I left my BF's apartment, I'd have to pay an extra $500 a month just to have my own room in an apartment share on the absolute lowest end if I found a deal, but it would probably be closer to $700 to 800 more a month. I really want space to breathe.

My thought process

Right now, I'm leaning towards turning down the residency for all of the above reasons, but my heart is torn over it. I feel like if I had gotten this just a little bit earlier while I was still adrift it would have been perfect, but I might be more interested in it for the person I was then and how little I had going on, and now, I have too much that I'd be giving up if I accept.
I just did the math and with my typical current expenses minus rent and utilities, I'd be losing about $12,000 over the period without an income (I'm guesstimating that food & drink will be cheaper but that I'd be spending way more on gas than I currently do on public transportation). That same amount would net me about 7.5 months of Airbnb rental in a rural area I love where I'm comfortable driving. I almost would rather just make my own little "mini residency" where I rent a place one month out of the year and continue to work, but scale it back slightly. My BF isn't thrilled about me going away for an entire month, but he'd accept it.
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TL:DR: I got offered a residency that would pay my rent in a smaller town but with some restrictions including quitting my job so I could focus 100% on art - but they wouldn't pay my other expenses. Also, if I take this opportunity my long term BF would break up with me rather than do long-distance, and I will definitely lose momentum that I've built up in the highly competitive city where I live now and have to shift my focus – which I'm interested in doing, but also feels scary! I'd appreciate any insight on how to make this decision.
I'm considering an alternative step of turning down this residency and instead renting a cabin for one month. This would cost me about $1,600. If I take the residency I would have to spend about $12,000 out of my savings unless I magically start making $1,000+ a month creatively, which is unlikely based on what I know about my field. It would be taking a huge gamble on myself to accept and I'm not sure that I'm ready.

Police arrive to question a student Parents demand the school deal with bullies Wild food fight School councilor wants to talk to you Questioned by school authority after blames for problem you didn’t do Overhear a student singing, beautifully Janitor is hiding illegal contraband in the basement Bathroom gossip Student in adjacent stall is sobbing Bully is trying to swirly a kid Selling drugs in the bathroom You catch gays kissing Fire alarm triggers Snoring kid in class Kid has super freak out in class Note passing, maybe you get caught Accused of cheating on test Dodgeball, but with supers Coach pushes student to tears A “hidden spot” all the students of the class graffiti their names on to, as a rite of passage Infirmary is robbed Injured student refuses to see nurse Horny teen keeps faking injuries to be with the nurse Kids Frenching in the library Religious teen destroying “bad” books Students injures themselves while working in shop class Hot student on the field distracts everyone, causing accidents Overhear two teachers speaking in the lounge about classmates Two teachers get in a fight Honor society for the best graded / scored in school (maybe one of the teachers is trying to pull some heroes to a crime group or to the cult?) Student invites people to his big house party Players have to do a weird job for a wealthy patron, “fundraising” for school needs Community outreach event, NPC wants to go the mall and do a PSA on how the supers are good folks. Help a bunch of folk and get threatened by the holy crusade Awkward meet and greet scene in class, “introduce yourself to the class…” Naming ceremony after completing the first semeste graduating Help student get their driver’s license. While on it, see a crime being committed. The paparazzi. Make this a number of significant NPCs, one that is unbiased, one that loves them, and another that despises them. Regular interviews requested. Paparazzi, gets scandalous photo. Paparazzi stage a damsel in distress situation, just so the woman can come on to you and they can get a photo. They arrange a meeting between you and a villain to get a juicy fight aired, they provoke you into hitting them. Hang outs with friends and classmates as a means of reducing stress / sanity Villains who are opposite of some heroes latch on to PC or NPC, making their life mission to destroy them. One is kinda sweet and innocent about it, another not so much. NPC classmates that join villains PCs are tasked with recruiting / saving a super and bringing them to the academy Students dare others to sneak into teachers dorm, pot is up for 500 bucks. Each attempt costs 5 bucks. Must break in and get evidence to prove it.
Edit: oh god! Mobile formatting!!
I’ll edit this when I’m home. Sorry it’s hideous!

I’m actually rather social but of course my battery runs out quickly. If my partner makes plans in the beginning of the week I’m excited but of course by the time arrives I’m worn out and exhausted and I just can’t socialize. I guess it makes me come off as moody and rude and while he has been supportive (I explained to him I’m a person who is not family oriented/spend lots of time with family) and hasn’t pressured me when I say no. I can still see the hurt in his face. In addition to this his family does not like me much at all because I don’t match their energy with this. We both come from different cultures as well so in his culture it’s 100% family all the time and in my culture it’s much more individualized with a smaller emphasis on family (aka I’m American lol)
I try to explain to him it’s not against anyone and I just cant I absolutely physically and mentally can not visit with people if I’m not in that space at all. Our house is small and so I can’t avoid guests at all when they are over so I will literally be stuck in our room for hours or a day or two going hungry even for as long as necessary until they are gone. I have always been that way even since I was a kid. So there is some trauma with this as well as my own family would relentlessly bully me over this and forcefully bring strangers into my space to make me socialize even if I wasn’t decent and unprepared. It does stress him out how I have a very strict no unexpected visitors rule of our house (even if I’m not there) and my own personal rule. As his family is all about unexpected visits and an entitlement to enter our home whenever they request because their homes are always open. If I know his family is in the area and they want to drive by I have to say a million times “they can’t come in” but I don’t mean he can’t see them. So many wonderful spaces nearby they can spend time in, why does it always have to be our house? He panics because he can’t set this boundary with them and I feel so awful putting him in this position.
It just makes me feel crazy, like why can’t I just suck it up and go out there and put on a smile? For my partners sake? I just feel so terrible because he just wants to share this side of his life with me that is so important to him and I only see his family for an hour or two at most once every few months. I feel like he has seen his family less over this as well because he wants to be with me.
Am I as horrible as I feel?

Just started using Dermadry and I'm going to try and update this every other day to help keep me on track and using it as frequently as I am supposed to because I'm bad about sticking to a routine. This may be more for myself than anything, but if someone else finds it useful, even better. I'll try and format it by sections so you can just read the parts you're interested in.
Dermadry Treatment:
Using the "Upgraded version" with the rubbery bottom mat, and hexagonal grid top mat. I am using bottled water at room temp, however, I have read others using different types of water, and even adding chemicals to the water. For now, I will stick with bottled water, and depending on the results in 2 months, I may change it up.
6/10/23 - 10:00 AM Treatment 1: I used ~250ml of room temp bottled water in each tray. Set the current strength to 5mA to just feel it out (1-15mA is recommended). For the first couple of minutes, I couldn't feel anything, but as we approached the 15min mark I could feel a slight tingling and my hands were a little itchy. The biggest surprise came at the 15min, 10min, and 5min mark (I think). The voltage readout displayed "L5" and I felt a shock strong enough to make my forearms spasm and tense up. It wasn't painful, just a weird feeling, and I assume this has to do with its rotating current phases. Their website states "L5 will be displayed when the tension is lower than 5 volts." I don't know what that means, but I will contact customer support about it. My hands were a bit sweaty after I finished up, and the itchiness was gone after a few minutes, but after an hour my hands dried up a bit and have been completely dry for several hours. I plan on doing it again at 5mA tomorrow and then give it a day of rest before upping the voltage up to 7 or 8mA.
Background: I'm in my late 20s and have suffered from sweaty hands for as long as I can remember. I would say I have it moderate during most of the day, but in social situations, it can go up to a 10 in severity. I'm talking wiping my hands with a paper towel over 10min will completely soak it through. At its worst, I can clench my fist and literally have beads of sweat run off. I get a bit self-conscious in social situations, but I wouldn't say I have bad social anxiety. But it's this slight nervousness that really sets off my sweaty hands.
Improvised treatments: I started out trying to dry my hands with harsh chemicals on a few occasions when I knew I had a social event of some sort that would involve shaking hands. I would soak my hands in brake cleaner or rubbing alcohol as I work with them and had it lying around. Alcohol would just dry it for a bit, but sweating would come back 10-fold within 30min after. Brake cleaner lasted a while longer, but is absolutely terrible for your skin, your health, etc. Please for the love of god, DO NOT use brake cleaner, I was young and stupid and it only worked for a few hours at a time. I also tried wearing latex gloves during my entire time working as it caused me to sweat a bunch and would get my hands to sweat so much, that sometimes it would prevent me from sweating further the rest of the day. This kind of worked, but my work environment has changed, and working in latex gloves now would just make people think I was a psycho. My final attempt was to just get healthy. For a whole year, I dropped almost all caffeine, drank nothing but water, and dietary/workout shakes, worked out and had a diet to match with hardly any dietary cheating. This helped out mostly with social situations, as I wouldn't be near as self-conscious, but I still would get severe sweating during dates, big meetings, and school tests.
Antiperspirants: I bought some Dove Clinical Strength antiperspirant and used that for a while, applying it before bed, or during the day and letting dry under a fan for 15-30min. This would help for normal day stuff, but the moment anything like a date, or a meeting with a boss occurred, it would be like I hadn't done anything. After about two weeks of on-and-off applications, I switched to trying Certain Dri with the results being about the same. The third product I tried was Sweat Block Wipes which were less effective than the previous ones. Not saying these products aren't good, they just weren't effective for me. The last product I tried was Antihydral, I ordered this at the same time as Dermadry and was by far the best. One application with just enough that you could tell there was a layer on there, and let dry for 15-30min under a fan kept my hands dry for days at a time. I only tried this a couple of times before my Dermadry unit came in, so this is my fallback plan if Dermadry doesn't work. I hear from some users the effectiveness of Antihydral can wear off over time, so I have put that on pause while I just do Dermadry.
Medical treatments: I went to a dermatologist and was prescribed Glycopyrrolate. This would help if taken in high doses, but when I got a new dermatologist he highly advised against taking it in the dosages I was. I still have a lot of it left over, and will still take it before a date or social event. In combination with the antiperspirants, this is still fairly effective but requires planning ahead and remembering to take it. I have fairly good medical insurance, but after talking it over with the doctor, the cost of Botox with the side effects and longevity of the treatment made me put it off as a final Hail Mary if all else fails. Finally, I got Dermadry and that's what I'm starting now, and we will see how this works for me.

Hi all, TL:DR at bottom. For the first time in my life, I'm thinking of breaking off my relationship with my boyfriend of 12 years. We've been together since highschool, hes been my one and only this entire time. We've built a life together, a house, a dog, cats. My entire adult life has been spent with him. But I'm now not so sure if there's a future for us. We've always had problems. Minor spats here and there, but a big one that's been a point of contention since about 3 years in has been the intimacy. I was just finishing University and we had moved to a new city to be closer to my school and closer to his work. This was hard for him even if it benefitted him because it distanced him from his friends, which he had a real hard time with. This resulted in him using nearly all his free time taking the bus back to hang out with his friends. It was rare he'd be at home with me at all and when he was, he was so hungover from the nights previous with his friends that he couldn't do anything outside the apartment. When I got my license and a car, it became him begging me to drive him, "I'll get home sooner to see you" he'd say, which was true... The bus would take him near 3 hours while me driving him was only 40 minutes. But weekend after weekend of this left me feeling uninterested in having sex, and it dipped to about once a week, where it now still is. We've had loads of arguments regarding my sex drive being low, and how he's missing the connection of being with me physically. I've expressed that I feel like he doesn't make time for me other than to have sex, which always blows up into a big fight about how I don't realize how hard he works to keep this relationship going and how hard to tries to make me happy. Which is mostly true, he busts his ass at work and generally works hard. But I don't personally see the effort in regards to the missing emotional intimacy. This issue pops up periodically, maybe two or three big blowouts about it a year. All this to say, I'm not perfect. Not even close. I've had a terribly hard time being assertive and direct about how I feel which is detrimental to the relationship. I have depressive episodes which makes me a bummer to be around, I often let things fester to the boiling point because I fear confrontation. All this makes me far more agreeable to things I shouldn't be which no doubt hasn't been easy for him to navigate.
Honestly, I started having these doubts years ago. But I wanted to work on them and expected this to get better, especially as I had really started vocalizing my qualms but it seems to have only made things worse. But looking back there were a lot of... Inappropriate things I shouldn't have tolerated but was too young and naive to really act on, such as extreme jealous (male friend touched my hand while hiking to help me up a steep ridge, and he went off the handle saying he doesn't trust me,) he was oblivious to when I developed anorexia, he kept asking if I was gay because I would say no to sex, up until today during our not-enough-intimacy fights. It came to the point where I've been agreeing to sex reluctantly and have been getting more or less no sexual pleasure from it for years to keep the peace while I try to get us to work on my issues,, which I think he knows since there's no foreplay, and he knows I don't usually orgasm during it. Today, I had run out for a couple hours with the puppy to do some errands and chores and had just gotten home. I hadn't yet eaten so I was preparing myself something to eat. He asks if I'd like to have sex, to which I say I'm not feeling it, and I'm making lunch. He suggested afterwards, which I wasn't keen on either. So instead he asked if he could touch me while he gets off, which would mean delaying me making food so again I said no. This launched our trip/quazi-annual fight about lack of intimacy. I tried to explain to him that I need to feel more effort and emotional connection from him to be more open to having more sex. I want to feel important and valued, and like he wants to do things with me outside of watching tv. He proceeded to get really mad and defensive because he does put in effort in the form of finances and working on better his job prospects so we can have a better life. (For context, he makes about the same amount as I do yearly, just so no one assumes there's a breadwinner in this circumstance). It divolved into him angry and upset because he felt I wasn't listening to him, and that I'm basically asking him to forfeit one of the things he likes to do in his very small window of leisure time in order to satisfy me. (Which yes he does have a very narrow window of time, he works out from 8-10, his schedule has him working usually 10-7 WFH, and then he usually has some sort of meal prep which would take him from 7-9, if no meal prep then he'd play bass or read work-related things to improve his employable skills, which leaves me from 9-10 for basically TV). It got relatively heated, not yelling or insulting, on topic but both emotional and upset. I suggested that perhaps every second Saturday, we do a date night. We would alternate who plans the date, and we would each plan a date that we think the other would enjoy. He didn't like that idea at all. Instead he wants me to decide what I want to do as a date, plan it, and then ask if he wants to go. He said if I lead by example then he'll get a better understanding of what's expected and be able to do the same. My problem comes from the fact that this isn't a new suggestion, and this isn't the first conversation we've had about it. And I've done that But nothing comes of it and the cycle repeats. At this point, I'm nearly 30. I feel lonely in my own house, and I'm not sure where to go from here. We are tied together in every way, with the house only being owned by us under a year, three pets under 3, all our assets are together, we've only really dated each other... The implications of even considering breaking things off is daunting and life changing, especially since we live in a HCOL area so we'd both suffer tremendously. But I also can't help but think I'm overreacting to something minor and that it'd be a waste to just...throw this all away. I have no frame of reference for whether or not this is pretty normal stuff, and don't really have anyone in my life I can talk to about this.
So... I guess I wanted to know from others in similar positions what youve done and how it's worked out. Please be as blunt with me as possible. If what I've written screams that I'm the problem and that I need to work on xyz, please say so. If I'm the problem I want to work on it and do better.
Sorry for the wall of text but it felt really good to articulate my thoughts as I've not really done it in this much detail ever.
TL:DR: Boyfriend doesn't make time for me so I don't feel the intimate connection I require to be more sexually intimate. At what point is it no longer worth continuing the relationship?

This shit literally wires your brain to expect a reward and a pat on the shoulder every 20 fucking minutes, think about what that does to your self control and reward circuits. Nicotine, like alcohol, inhibits your ability to make good, conscious decisions. The issue is that you see the error in your decisions when you sober up off of the alcohol. With nicotine even if you do see the addiction and dependence forming, your vape is right there and its infinitely easier to just hit it and not think of the consequences.
Look at researchchemicals and you can see the most wacked out, depressing posts are people who are vaping (admittedly harder) drugs that have a similar 10 minute re-dose cycle and the constant avoidance of a withdrawl that we see with nicotine. I havent done any of that stuff but reading the posts its scary to me to see that their thought process is (while scattered, confused, and typically much worse) not dissimilar from my own regarding nicotine.
Nicotine might not be the same as those chemicals, but its doing the same thing to your neuronal circuitry. While it's more socially acceptable, you look just as much like a fiend as they do when you can't find your vape. I know I've embarrassed myself a few times in a nicotine surge when I lost my vape and was craving hard.
Im scared to wonder how many people abused vaping nicotine and chasing that dragon led them to harder substances....
If youre on this sub like me then you're taking steps to not be that, and you won't become that. Our brains can regrow and rewire, especially from something like nicotine. Every single time you reject a craving you improve your brain circuitry that much more, you push yourself further along towards life long success and health.
This isn't about losing anything, it's about regaining and improving your ability to make conscious, self-benefitting decisions.

As usual, before a big final, I like to get a little behind the scenes insight. Last time, I got up close and personal with the players, but as a result, a restraining order was issued, so this time, I leveled up and installed some cameras in their hotel rooms. This will give us a first-hand look at their prep for the finals.

Casp-o-vision :

Sunday, June 11th. The clock strikes 6:00AM. Norwegian music begins playing. Casper’s eyes open. “Ahhh Kongesangan,” thinks Casper, “the only choice for brushing one’s teeth”. Casper begins brushing. He is already in the bathroom, where he sleeps standing up to maximize efficiency. He brushes the right side efficiently, and does the best he can on the other. Though these teeth are mainly defensive, they are constantly improving. Casper turns to his coaches, who are sitting in the tub watching him brush. They nod and make fists, the only coaching he has ever received from them. He nods and makes a fist as well. The main coach, whose name he has never learned, hands him a plate of Fårikål, and he begins eating. “Shouldn’t I have eaten this before I brushed my teeth?” he asks, but perhaps the storyteller, like Casper’s team, did not think this through. Still though, Google is very informative. “Boy, I sure do love Oslo,” muses Casper. “And fjords.” Wow, Casper is ready for Roland Garros.

Djokocam :

Sunday June 11th. The clock strikes 6:00AM. Norwegian music begins playing. “Perhaps we should not have been roommates” thinks Novak, as he looks across the room to Casper’s bed. But Casper is not there. Djokovic stretches his impervious to cramps body. He is not in a bed, but gently relaxing on a bed of moss, which grew when he summoned it with warrior one. He eases slowly into chair pose, and a chair appears. Goran quickly sits in it. “Look at my cool new shades!” says Goran. “Very nice, Goran,” says Novak, as he closes his eyes to begin meditating. “You think we can win, Novak?” asks Goran, while swinging his legs excitedly in the chair. “Yes, Goran,” answers Novak. “Can you believe they eat snails here?” asks Goran, while pretending his hand is an airplane. “Yes, Goran,” answers Novak. “Would you ever eat a snail?” asks Goran, while pretending he is an airplane. “Yes, Goran,” answers Novak. “Wow,” says Goran. His friend Novak is so cool.
Casper emerges from the bathroom, and Djokovic heads in. There are crumbs in the sink, and Ruud’s team shake their fists and nod at him as he begins combing his hair. Novak shakes his head. He is ready for Roland Garros.

Men’s Singles Final :

There is something about Casper Ruud’s game that makes it seem like he is not doing anything special. He is ultra-consistent, and he makes the right choices in almost every situation, but his disciplined approach can make a player like Zverev or Rublev seem like they are on another level. Ruud has made two Grand Slam finals already (both last season), but was summarily written off before they began, suffering defeat at the hands of Carlos Alcaraz at the US Open, and Rafael Nadal at Roland Garros. Here again, he is being given very slim chances by most people. When you do everything right (by the book), there is a sense that you become predictable, and the greats of the game have excellent situational awareness. If they can move early to your shots, you’re not going to get many errors from them. It makes this a very uphill battle for him, because Novak Djokovic is a player that is unlikely to be rattled by the classic patterns and approaches to the game, and is one of the most consistent players the tour has ever seen. Once he gets in a rhythm, you’re playing a tennis game set to expert, so Casper will need to elevate his aggression here.
Ruud will thankfully be fresh for the finals, but after watching the Alcaraz demise it’s hard to gauge how long that will last. Him being a bit older does give him a bit more stamina and experience, and he had a fairly quick match against Zverev. He’s also done this before, so I think physically he is ready to go 5 sets. Thinking, though, isn’t it always the cause of our blunders. Zverev looked competitive in parts of their match, but he is not at the top level of the game yet. His ceiling is, but where does his ceiling lurk? Ruud is nearly robotic out there. You know he is going to execute and move the ball well and his defensive skills are solid enough to make his opponent play several shots to win a point. It’s the discipline he has that allows him to do this regardless of the stage and the opponent. Zverev, on the other hand, is very much thinking out there. When he has a setup, it’s very up in the air what he should do. He’s often creating angles and situations that he is only going to play 1-2 of per match, and it leads to errors as he second-guesses and hesitates on shots (especially rough in choosing when and when not to come to net). In truth, he could have wound up deep in the match against Casper, but when Zverev had control or time, he made a lot of unforced errors trying to crack Ruud’s defenses. Despite having a ton of experience on tour, Zverev has not really ironed out his game and since returning from injury, he hasn’t really dealt with a match where he had to play hard every point in order to win. The ability is there, but the repetition of effort is not.
Speaking of repetition of effort, it should be noted what a great adjustment Djokovic made in his semifinal match. He is very frequently a slow starter on clay, but he came out and looked to match Alcaraz’s aggression from the start. It was a very “I’m not going to miss and I want you to know that” approach, and digging in in this manner started to forced Alcaraz to come up with more and more ambitious attempts. They both have a lot of heat on their shots, but Alcaraz is certainly the one swinging harder on the average ball. He started to make errors, but it looked to me like he would wear down Djokovic’s defenses with the onslaught. There have been a number of matches this tournament where the first couple games were furiously played, and eventually one player settled into their role as a defender, or folded up and forced offense until they lost. This didn’t feel like the case here, as both of these players can legitimately expect to hit a high percentage of their shots no matter what style they proceed with. A good example is how a post-cramp, immobile and defeated Alcaraz was able to guide winners off Djokovic’s serve. Not a strategy to win the match, but something that he rarely uses in match-play yet was instantly able to do.
After losing the first set, I still like Alcaraz’s chances. It had become the best type of ATP match, one where the player who is serving doesn’t just automatically win. The great big 3 matchups featured so many breaks and yet those breaks weren’t huge cracks or fails at all, it was just that at the highest level, players can play defense and offense from everywhere on the court. They exchanged breaks late in the 2nd set, and it seemed like Alcaraz’s aggression was finally mentally wearing Djokovic down. Early in the third though, disaster struck in the way that it always seems to when a phenom plays Djokovic at a major. Carlos Alcaraz cramped. Spectacularly. His hand cramped, his calf cramped, and he looked like Medusa slid in his DMs for a moment. Big credit to Djokovic for being bigger than the moment, and coming across the net to express concern and help Alcaraz to his chair. Cramping is something that affects a lot of players on tour, but it was pretty unexpected from Alcaraz. His physical strength is off the charts, and he trains extremely hard. If some combination of nerves and over-exertion really caused this, then it’s a by-product of Djokovic being willing to go toe-to-toe with him right from the start of the match.
There are great nutritionists working on the tour, but once you actually go full-cramp, it is nearly impossible to continue playing tennis. The muscle is in pain, and doesn’t want to fully flex even if you do. In short, you’re fatigued, in pain, and weak. Alcaraz forfeited the game so he could get treatment, but with 2 full sets left against the guy who is leading the GOAT debate currently (and competing against off-tour opponents), you’re pretty much finished. Brave of Alcaraz to finish out the match, and I had some hope that the kid would go full-tank and hydrate to recover for a 4th, but it appeared the damage was irreversible. He stood in on some returns, and while this means that any poor returns leave your court position too shallow to cover both wings of the court, he did show a pretty good ability to utilize this tactic. I’d love to see him do more of this in the future, as the best returners are pretty much hugging the baseline and you need this to win with minimized effort on hardcourt and grass. I’d also add, his deep return position was allowing Djokovic to serve and volley an awful lot, and Novak really was the one scoring off the dropshot in the non-cramp sets so Alcaraz will need to work on some other strategies. A good restful win for Djokovic, and a new wrinkle to the “how high will Alcaraz rise” debate. I don’t think too many people were really expecting cramps (to my knowledge it’s the first time he’s dealt with that on tour), and he had the momentum before they occurred.
One of the best things about majors is how long the players are out there. It allows for so many deviations in strategy and planning. Dumping sets to conserve energy, planning to sprint early then take a set off, and changes in strategy (holding back a bit of pace on serves early or playing frequent dropshots to take your opponents legs) can be really effective. Djokovic got the benefit of an interesting result here. It seemed like his defense was good enough to keep Alcaraz at bay but he wasn’t able to counter-punch. If this was by design, kudos to him and his team for allowing Alcaraz to punch himself out. If it wasn’t, it has at a minimum inspired other players to dig in on defense against Carlos now that they’ve seen the gas tank actually on E, which is tremendous for the tour since we’ve seen a few top guys fold against him already. The names on the trophies are less important than creating an environment where these guys can compete at their freest, because the sport won’t continue to grow unless the product is visibly enticing to the non-tennis public.
Djokovic Ruud should be a great match, the same way Swiatek Muchova was today. Ruud has yet to win a set against Djokovic in his career, but almost every single set has been confined to a single break of serve. That’s largely what I expect here. Ruud is good enough to compete with Djokovic for 75% of the match. Similar to the CA/ND situation that caused the cramps, Ruud is good enough to play Djokovic on even terms, but not really able to get out of trouble once he’s in it. Since Djokovic’s measured approach won’t wear himself out like Alcaraz’s did, this means a long match, with a vaguely assured result. This is good for Ruud for a few reasons. One, he won’t be distracted very often. When you’re going uphill but are a great competitor like Ruud, you don’t get caught up in the “what ifs” of an L or fret changes in the scoreline, you just keep an eye on how you’re doing out there. Trying different approaches, working on the spots you’re losing ground in, and communicating with your box constructively rather than complaining are useful, and keep you in the present moment. That’s a good place to stay for Casper here, because the crowd is very likely to get behind him. Djokovic is a beloved champion, but fans want to see a long match. If Ruud was considered an even contender here, he could almost enter villain territory, as fans would not want to see a great champion dethroned. Since he’s publicly regarded as a plucky underdog, he’ll have plenty of support.
Tennis-wise, the problem here is simple. Djokovic has the best backhand in tennis, and Ruud fights his off. He can create some great angles with it, and hits passes fairly well, but it’s a safe target for Djokovic which means the majority of shots are going to go there. We all saw how devastating a weapon the dropshot and forehand inside-in became for Alcaraz when Tsitsipas attempted to camp in his backhand corner, and I fear that Ruud will have similar issues in this match. This is doubly tricky because Djokovic’s backhand dropshots are much better and much more frequently attempted down the line. Ruud served well against Zverev, but he went out wide from the duece court a lot and Zverev never really punished him for it. Djokovic ropes these shots cross-court very well and he’s good at picking a few spots to up the aggression. If Casper is forced to abandon this serve, it’s a problem because it’s generally the best way to ensure that his second shot is a forehand. He plays well behind the pattern, but great returners (and great teams hello Goran) are likely to notice any significant lean on a particular serve. The odds at -450 indicate that Ruud will be competitive (because basically everyone watching is looking to bet on Djokovic at this point), but this would be the most surprising result that has occurred in tennis in a very long time. I think Ruud wins the same set via steady play and heavy hitting that Khachanov did, but it’s hard to see Djokovic struggling with patterns and opponents that he has already figured out. Djokovic in 4.

Ajax
Been plenty of questions about this but I never found one that worked for me. I have a plain and simple HTML table whos body is being filled with rows from an AJAX call.Then I want to update the table with DataTable plugin but it does not work.I have a HTML table that looks like this:

1	2	3	4	5

In my jQuery pageload
$(document).ready(function(){ var oTable = $('#myTable').dataTable({ "aoColumns": [ { "bSortable": false }, null, null, null, null ] });}); And finally my on dropdownlist change function
$("#dropdownlist").on("change", function () { $("tbody").empty(); $.ajax({ type: "POST", url: "@Url.Action("ActionHere", "Controller")", dataType: "json", success: function (data) { $.each(data, function (key, item) { $("tbody").append("12345"); }); } }) var oTable = $('#myTable').dataTable(); // Nothing happens var oTable = $('#myTable').dataTable({ // Cannot initialize it again error "aoColumns": [ { "bSortable": false }, null, null, null, null ] }); }); The append and so on has been modified to shorten it down, etc so do not focus too much on it.
Basically the question is how to update the table, I can do my AJAX and add new data to the table fine, but the datatable plugin does not update with it.I've tried other things like

.fnDraw(false);

But it does nothingWhile I get an JSON error from

fnReloadAjax()

Any clues on just how to refresh the table?
Answer link : https://codehunter.cc/a/ajax/refresh-jquery-datatable-table

I’ve been using the Olaplex shampoo for the past year and don’t know how much of a difference it’s actually made in terms of repairing damage. I’ve been out of the conditioner for awhile, but still have the shampoo. Does it really repair hair? It’s only like one ingredient so I don’t know how much of a difference it would make

Legal to remove unwanted/unwelcome “tenants” from a home I do NOT own/rent myself?
Tl;dr - best legal way to remove undesired “tenants” from my sisters home?
Rundown:
Sister is currently and lives in a low-income rental with her two kids. She became involved with a guy, who then got evicted from his own residence, and he moved in with my sister, and brought his mother in tow (she was living with him).
When my sister and this guy met, they were both working (how they met), now they’re both unemployed. She lost her job due to some health struggles, not sure about him. She’s a U.S. resident, he is undocumented.
She does not like the guy, but feels trapped. She’s been in and out of the hospital for various reasons, currently sitting with her as she’s coming out of a second surgery in two days. The guy is pretty worthless, sapping her of resources, and using her for shelter, but he IS, at least on paper, an adult in the house. Her kids (my niece and nephew), are 15 and 18, so they CAN take care of themselves for some things, but not everything. The guy doesn’t help her with anything, his mom lives in the basement and DEFINITELY doesn’t help with things, and he frequently brings his nephew* over and stay as well. He doesn’t clean, or get the kids around when they need to be places. He has access to her car, but my folks, who live in the same town, are the default caretakers for them when my sister is down-for the count. My folks are the ones shuttling her kids up to the hospital to see her, getting them to/from work or school, double checking there are groceries in the home.
Nobody likes this guy (sister, her kids, my folks, me), and it’s clear he is a leech. So many of her mental/emotional health struggles got worse once he moved in, and she’s largely been a recluse/shutting out others ever since.
Without wanting to jeopardize anything for heher kids, what can a person do to get an individual(s) removed from a dwelling given the following:

• it’s not my residence
• he’s not listed on a lease, nor is his mother or the nephew* that comes and stays
• my sister is the person on the lease, but is incapacitated at the moment.
• nobody wants my sisteher kids traumatize by the experience more than they have been already
• State of Wisconsin if that helps
• nephew - asterisked because I think he’s actually the son of the sister of this guys ex. Who f**ing knows.
• I live on the West Coast (currently here because my nephew just graduated high school - which his mom/my sis missed because she’s in the hospital)

Feeling a little lost, and unsure what to do. My parents are aging so quickly I’m trying to shoulder all of this, and when my sis gets out of the hospital, she’s going to need a good amount of support care for a couple months until she’s on the mend.
We just want this guy and his mess of a life gone - it would be such a relief in terms of the reduction of mental/emotional stress, my sister could actually focus on healing and taking care of herself/her kiddos.
I guess this was a bit of a rant as much as it was an ask for Reddit guidance.
It’s not likely anything will be done until my sister is coherent (she just got out of her second surgery of the week), but I’d like to know what options might be out there?
Ugh.

Okay long post, but apparently nausea can be a part of IBS, and also caused by anxiety. The doctors here in Finland refuse to give me any anti-nausea meds or even examine me in any way because they say it's just normal anxiety and reflux nausea. The only OTC med is Postafen for car sickness and it does not work. Lately, for the past ~5 MONTHS, I have had debilitating nausea on and off nearly every day. I have lost around 5+ kg (10ish pounds or more) though it's hard to tell exactly how much with how my weight naturally fluctuates. In any case, I have lost weight simply because I have not been able to eat much anything for the past 3 months or so.
Sometimes there are better days or even a week where the nausea is minimal and I can eat normally and sleep in my own bed again, but the room is too cramped to hold a bucket in case I throw up at night, so I have lived on the couch for most of this time. I have not thrown up even once, but the fear of throwing up on my bed and everything around it is too bad for me and also the toilet is closer to the living room.
Thing is, I had a stomach flu (likely noro, got it from a family member) in late March. Ever since, I have felt worse than I usually do. I am always physically somehow unable to throw up even though I have chronic reflux and daily regurgitation. I was just in pain and had bad shits during the week of stomach flu.
The nausea and heartburn have gotten worse by tenfold this past week and I suspect I might have gastroparesis on top of reflux and IBS. Stomach valve malfunctions run in the family. The doctors here however just tell me to take Somac (pantopratzole, doesn't help me even on the long run) and straight up REFUSE to examine me in any way or give me a referral to a much needed gastroscopy because I am "young and healthy" (21) and "haven't thrown up". I can't afford a private doctor, even a gastroscopy or ultrasound is 300-400 euros (about the same in USD with current rates) and I have less than that to my name for the entire month after bills etc. Public healthcare stuff is pretty much free with a citizenship health insurance but they jusy don't care about people before it's too late.
I take Rennie and Somac daily (Rennie when needed, Somac before bed) for my heartburn, but these past few days it has been so bad that it has made me cough and almost lose my voice several times. I'm going to try to call the doctors on Monday again and insist on a referral to a gastroscopy, I have had reflux for years and it's about time they check what's going on with my esophageal lining. If they even listen to me.
Anyone have any input? I am desperate at this point. I do voice work and hope to turn it into a job at some point, and the potential of reflux-caused vocal cord damage scares me.

Hi there! I was recently laid off and have drafted a severance negotiation letter I would love advice on. This is a company that, according to LinkedIn, has 110 US employees, 30 UK employees, and recently just laid off 55 people at the same time. I have not been able to determine how many of those 55 are US employees, nor how many of them are full-time vs contractors (and thus would not be relevant for a WARN Act violation). I understand the WARN Act applies when 50 or more full time US employees are laid off from a US company with over 100 employees total. Since I cannot be certain this violates the WARN Act, I don't want to come right out and tell them it does, but I also want to mention the WARN Act to make them know I am aware it may be a violation. Here's my drafted letter, I would appreciate any and all advice or guidance! Thanks so much!
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Hello,
I am disappointed to hear about this mass layoff, especially through email instead of over Zoom. I have read the severance package you sent me last week.
Although I appreciate you offering me one pay period of severance money, I don’t believe it is commensurate with my contributions to the business. I have been a dedicated employee of [company] for three years, and I am singlehandedly responsible for the successful launch of our company website and our documentation hub. I went above and beyond to release our new site by the deadline of [date], and I am disappointed to see that my impending layoff was the reason behind the urgency.
By the precedent set by the WARN Act, employees at a company the size of [company] should receive 60 days notice prior to a mass layoff. After discussing this with my lawyer, I would appreciate receiving 60 days pay, on top of the standard 1 month per year of service. I also had four weeks of paid vacation approved and coming up after my wedding in 3 weeks, for which I would appreciate compensation. If you are able to pay me this total of six months severance compensation I will sign your agreement.
If you have any questions or would like to discuss this further, please let me know. I have enjoyed working at [company] and am disappointed to receive this termination.
Best,
[Name]

I've been looking for better pay and wanted something out of retail, and noticed several lawn specialists were needed. Pay isn't much higher than where I'm at now, but it's 50 hours so there will be 10 hours overtime every week. However, I'm wondering about the winter months. Are you laid off and bring in unemployment the whole time, and for how long? What can you do to help survive it/bring in more money? Just get a part time job? Sorry if anything here is a stupid question, I've never done this work before.
Thanks!

I have a 26 year old son who was diagnosed with autism at age 2. He has lifelong communication difficulties. Because he looks “normal,” people/doctors expect him to communicate normally. He has problems communicating, processing language and information, and holding simple conversations. The best example I can give is that if he orders food at a fast food restaurant at the counter, and the employee taking his order asks him to clarify his choices, he will not be able to process the questions they ask consistently. He will sometimes and often reply yes or no inappropriately, or completely go silent. I will have to explain to him what is being asked and prompt him to answer correctly. He also hand flaps when excited, worried, upset, etc. He is over 6 feet tall and again, has no physical signs of disability. He has gained 50 lbs over an approximately 3 year period and is extremely fatigued daily. He has a very straggly beard and has never shaved. He has developed breasts and is extremely self conscious. His pcm did blood tests and his testosterone was 225. He was referred to a urologist and saw a PA at the practice.
Because he needs to be independent, we discussed his concerns and symptoms before his appointment and agreed he would speak for himself as much as possible He did pretty good explaining how he felt. I was proud of him.
The PA expressed at the initial appointment that testosterone therapy was not recommended for him because it would affect his fertility. (He has never had a gf and could not care for a child at this point in his life. He has never expressed to me that he would like to become a father.) He told the PA he was not worried about having kids. The PA ordered a bunch of tests and we made a follow up to discuss results in 3 weeks.
The follow up was a few days ago. His testosterone was measured at 205 while the other tests were all considered normal. The PA declared my son’s testosterone test was fine. I asked if it was considered low, and they replied that they had seen lower. The PA said my son was ok and no further tests were needed and he didn’t require testosterone replacement therapy.
The symptoms of weight gain, fatigue, and his development of breasts are extremely concerning to my son. The PA recommended a healthy diet and exercise. I agree that is necessary. He cannot cook and I do make all of our meals. He has food issues and only eats certain foods and his developmental doctors have said that is something that goes along with his diagnosis. He eats very plain food- chicken or burgers with no condiments. Plain white or brown rice or pasta with only salt. Toast with butter. Plain bagels. He doesn’t like cheese or sauces. He does eat chips, vanilla ice cream, and some other junk food, but he is extremely picky about even those kinds of food. He eats only cheese pizza. I completely understand his food choices/aversions are not optimal. He has a treadmill he walks on 3 times a week for 2 miles. He joined a gym a few months ago but couldn’t take the environment and people, so he decided he would walk on a treadmill at home. We have talked about him walking more. He agreed he has to and has decided to walk every day for 2 miles.
I have come to this sub for advice. I am his mom. His dad and I divorced and his dad moved out of state and has no contact with our son by his choice. That is upsetting to him. His dad cannot accept the behavioral and developmental issues our son has and basically deleted him from his life.
My question is this: how can I help my son? I’ve read medical literature that tells me his symptoms and test results indicate he could benefit from testosterone therapy. I know I need to help him eat healthier and try to keep him walking on his treadmill. At the follow up I asked the PA questions about the blood tests and they offered him an appointment with a urologist within the practice, which we scheduled, but they cautioned me the urologist would not prescribe my son testosterone therapy either. It is upsetting to me on another level because low testosterone can cause chronic health issues when he is older, never mind the symptoms he currently has.
Sorry for the long rambling post. Really any advice is appreciated. Thank you.

I am working with many data scientists in a large international enterprise, many of them have a PhD in fields such as physics, maths or computer science.
Recently, I started wondering if there exists an unspoken glass ceiling for data scientists (or IT specialists in general) in many organisations for such individuals who are not overly keen on giving up actual hands-on data science work, or who are not overly keen on having lunches and coffees with more senior managers all the time. This might sound like a luxury problem to have, but once you are beyond your 40s and have a family, it's not so much fun to be put in front of an undisclosed choice to either not progress anymore significantly or be forced to become a manager and give up that which you are really good at. Obviously, one could argue that many data scientists, to progress further, need to learn how to be more outgoing, extrovert, present themselves etc. - but that's not what I'm referring to. I've seen brilliant people leave the company because there was just not a lot more possible for the positions they were in.
So, does there exist a glass ceiling for specialist roles such as data scientists?
What are your observations?